It seems to me that when it comes to enneagram everyone talks about their type and wing but not much about subtypes/instinctual variants (ie. self-preservation/social/sexual). Basically I want to know a little more about subtypes in enneagram and possibly facillitate a little discussion. The questions might seem a little obvious but I'm pretty ignorant about them and it would really help to clear up a murky area for me.
Questions for enneagram aficionados
- What is the definition of each subtype? How broadly are the terms meant? How literal are they?
- What drives and determines your subtype? And is it a set, discrete world-view or a degree of inclination and based on percentage?
- How does your subtype work in relation to your type and your wings? Is it the most defining part of your enneagram?
- How do different subtypes interelate within a type? For example, how would a two people that are both type 1s but have differing subtypes interact?)
- Do the subtypes have commonalities across differing types and how do they corrospond to one another? For example, would a 1 SP feel an affinity for a 6 SP?
- How on earth can a 5 have a social subtype?
Questions for everyone
- What is your type, wing and subtype?
- How much does your subtype factor in the way you think of your type and others'?
- Does your subtype provide real insight into your behaviour beyond what your type provides?
- How do you think your subtype affects your approach to different aspects of life?
Basically the reason for all this is I read this today and it freaked me out with how (brutally) true it is for me
LinkSocial Fours: "Shame"
Shame, as we use it here, means embarrassment, humiliation, and lack of self-respect.
I feel ashamed of not measuring up to my vision of the ideal: not being bright or creative enough, not contributing to humanity, or not having a fulfilling relationship.
I die over each mistake or faux pas I make.
I often feel inadequate socially and either try to pour on charm and confidence or blend into the woodwork.
I'm always analyzing myself: Did I make myself understood? Did I sound stupid? Was I too aggressive? Was I too conciliatory?
I have dreams of achieving tremendous status and recognition in order to get revenge on those who have put me down or laughed at me.
I am very sensitive to being shamed or slighted. It devastates me to be excluded from a gathering or event that acquaintances or friends are attending.
Sometimes I say things against myself to try to deflect envy.
I feel less awkward when I fill a definite position in the group by demonstrating that I'm an authority on something or by making a strong statement about who I am by the way I dress.