*sigh* But okay.
Gotcha.Well... I think that they're both. They're observable things, so in a way it is behavior. But they just have a really deep impact on who a person is, it's how someone interacts with life on the most basic levels. Just trying to clarify!
Like, the instincts and enneagram type are like layers. Let's look at it like a lolli pop with gum in the middle. A 8w7 sx/sp and a 4w5 sx/sp will have a different flavor on the outside, but the gum will taste the same on the inside.
And cute analogy.
The underlined is what sounds the most accurate for me.It still sounds like you're using this as a defense to prevent people from actually getting to know you. Like as a filter. I sort of do this too, I act in a certain way to everyone to filter people out to see who is trustworthy and who is attractive to me. I'm nonrevealing and aloof. Then when someone seems trustworthy enough and makes me comfortable, I'll open up. What you're doing just sounds like a much more extreme version of this?
Extreme sounds like me.
Or rather I admire the so/sp type and believe that I am some part of what I adore.It still doesn't make much sense that you relate a lot to so/sp. Maybe I should read it and see how it feels to me...
I actually related to the 4w5 so/sp, not the 5w4, which makes this even more weird.I read so/sp type 9 and I don't really relate to it.
That's the part about the description I don't agree with, either. What in the 4w5 so/sp description I identified with was the "critic of social currents" bit. That strongly resonates with me, and that's a part I know I am.It mentioned wanted to feel accepted and fit in with everyone, and I just simply don't care about a lot of people. I want to feel accepted by my loved ones and those who I have made bonds with. I have no desire to be "accepted" by the world at large, I don't even think about that. My social instinct is last, and it really shows in my life.
Yeah, but I don't feel I'm that way at all - although people have told me that I am. I think most of the time I'm pretty cynical and annoying of which I tend to tone down when I'm around more people, habit I suppose, but I don't believe that's who I am.What you said earlier really sums up the sx lasts. Everyone likes them, but no one knows much about them. My INFJ 6w5 sp/so best friend has a ton of girls that like him and are interested in him, but he just doesn't really care and just likes talking to people for the sake of it. He has a lot of people that talk to him and he doesn't really know why.
Wow, I've hijacked this thread. I'm sorry.