Ah that's an intersting point. I also think that I have no need for self-preservation because I never had any real problem in that area. I was born in a low-middle class family where there was never problem to have the self-pres need content. But not enough rich to adhere to some normative behaviour link with financial health like have fashionable clothes allowing to distinctions in the group. And I have been a little frustated of that. Next, just before I integrate the middle school, my parents have decided to move in another city, just to live in a bigger house, separating me from my closest friend, and I've arrived in a middle school where I did'nt know any people. I think that have profoundly hurt my social intinct, and generate a total disinterest and even a clear rejection of self-preservational stuff. But if I was worried about the social stuff, it was submit to my sexual instinct, actualy, I missed for my intimate friends and romantic interests, and I believed they were irreplacable, so I was'n interested at all by the others child, and I've passed the entire first year of middle school without create any real link with them. But I was'nt happy at all about that situation, actualy, I was extremely unhappy, and I've decided to leave out my shell.I have no need for self preservation, it is what I do best by nature.
So, I've reflect very much about this for the last few days, consulting many sources, and I think that my main preoccupaton is sexual, that means a intense need for intense intimate and productive relationships. I think the problematic with instincts is that they are animals, but we are not animals, were are human being who need to deviate our instinctive impulses to other areas wich are typically human stuff. So, sexual intincts means more generaly an intense desire to "penetrate" the world to product somethin greater, wich means to impact it and have sexual connection with the world, "sexual" being related to "pleasure", and challenge it. The sexual instinct can be expressed in analyse, because analyse is a sort of penetration. Sx peoples can be very good scientists (By the way, I tell about the masculine sexual instinct, the sexual instinct can express diferently with woman).
I think Sx/Sps have stronger need to express their sexual instincts toward material gain or something. And they are more fearful for physical pain. I don't care about material gain for himself. I'm fearless about physical pain except that I've been aquaphobic between 8 years old and 10 because I almost drown at 8. I was reckless while I did'nt know to swim. But my father and his friends rescued me. But during the 2 next years, I've progressively learned to swim and easily overcome my fear. First because I was attracted by risky activities that we need to know how to swim to do it. Second because my social envionment, family or friends, encouraged me to overcome my weakness and if I was afraid to drown, I was even more to be considerate as a coward in the group. Elsewhere, I enjoy comfort very much, and naturally take it where is it, but I don't feel hurt when my comfort is compromise, I don't care. When I'm in enjoying activities with people, there's always some who'are grimping about lack of comfort or something. This is boring and I laugh at them or even frequently insult them, saying they're weakling.Although I am no expert, I can tell you that for me, my primary modus operandi with regard to anything I do is to enjoy it. Whether work or play, I'm going to have a good time. That spills out into my drive for socialization.
I socialize for the love of interacting with people, learning new things from them, entertaining them, etc. I do not network as a means to try and aggrandize my social position in a hierarchy of some kind. That to me is the primary motive of someone who is "so" dominant. There is an alterior motive to their socialization, not just doing for the joy of being social.
I enjoy social situations when there's something special with peoples I interact with. I manifest extrovert behaviour when I feel i can impact the group it's why many people have find me very charismatic, extrovert and prone to leaderships. Some other have find me very self-effacing and reserved. They are the ones who've seen me in situations wich bored me. I tend to be more at ease with one to one relationships, but not always. It's a delightful sensation to feel I merge with a group of fun persons. I am fearless about physical pain, but fearful about social rejection and even more about intimate rejection. I think that the 2 most basic fear for men are brawl and girls. I have never been afraid for brawl, I actually love it, but girls scared me very much, and they still a little to do. I've overcome that fear because I need to, but it vas hard. I am balanced between a need for for intense union and an idealism wich make me more reserved because I fear to be disapointed. I find this very 4-ish. I have a need to agrandize my social position first because I think that can enlarge my sexual options.
I feel all that mor as sx/so but I may be wrong though.
Yes, I've consult them.BlackCat has some great Enneagram reference threads that might better clarify my bastardized summary of these concepts. But hopefully, they were of some utility, as they are examples of my implementation of my Enneagram stats.
I'm like that, but it's more because I'm an introvert, I think.sx/sp
They may isolate themselves for long periods of time before reemerging. They live according to a strictly personal outlook
That's me.May be prone to self-medicating.
That's me when I'm interested about what I do. As a sx-dom, I am above all intimate, and don't always merge directly with the larger group. I am often observant first. Then, my behaviour moves frome one another extreme to another. Peoples oftend say about me "one hour ago, we did'nt heard him at all, now, he's the one we heard the most and is the most crasy". I like the most to be in extremes, extreme introversion or extreme extroversion, mid behaviour bore.sx/so
This is the type that exudes the most raw charisma and sexual energy.
Yes, except for boring or uncool things, of courseThey may identify so strongly with whatever they're involved with that they often become the symbol of its core essence, and sometimes its lead agent for change.
Oh, yeah.Hardly content with the status quo, this subvariant seeks to alter the fundamental structure of something while at once embodying it's purest or most extreme form.
TotalyPossibly attracted to radical views on politics, philosophy, spirituality or creativity that reflect their penchant for testing boundaries.
Yes.They enjoy pushing other's buttons, especially those resistant to their modes of expression.
I'm involved in political, creative and spiritual cause from my childhood!It's not uncommon for them to have a pet social, political or spiritual cause which they're able to support with heartfelt conviction.
It may be what I spend the most time to think about.May exploit and seek to redefine sexuality to reflect their own colorful and uncertain understanding of it.
Peoples have sayed that about me.While prone to exhibitionism,
they are strongly attracted to grounding influences which can anchor them and provide stability.
Yes, that's a real dilemma sometimes.Failure to satisfy an especially intense desire for connection may cause this subvariant to spite others at the risk of jeopardizing the need for an equal, stabilizing force. Can feel pulled between wanting a life of maximum intensity and reassuring episodes of peaceful convention.
YES!Motivation: to impact others, question assumptions, challenge convention.
Familiar roles: provocateur, activist, exhibitionish
Madonna=3w4 sx/so John Lennon= 9w1 sx/so Elvis= 9w8 sx/so Joan of Arc= 6w7 sx/so, I can see that.Examples of sx/so: Madonna, John Lennon, Yukio Mishima, Robin Williams, Drew Barrymore, Richard Simmons, Elvis, Bono, George Michael, Sinead O'Connor, Joan of Arc.