Nope, but there are things called 'cancer', 'drunk drivers' and other things that can kill children. But most of all I don't want my kids to end up being the only kid alive before I die, because otherwise they'd feel all alone when it comes to taking care of me by the time I'm too old to take a shit on my own. So if I'll get as old as my grandparents (plus some extra years, considering the fact that my generation will probably get older then theirs), I'll have to make sure they don't end up alone before I'm about 95. If I get kids around age 30, these kids would all have to live past 65. Now deaths before the age of 65 don't happen in my family, but who knows what bad genetics my kids might get from their dads. Who knows they'll drink themselves to death.
They're usually ugly and they really don't do anything, but they sure NEED a lot. Kids aren't interesting until they can talk, IMO, or at last move around and do silly stuff.
That's exactly how I feel about babies, but I usually keep it a secret, lest budding parents regard me as they would a violent psychopath.
What I'm looking for in other people is the ability to reciprocate my thought and expression with equally rich thought and expression, as well as the ability to draw forth my feelings of affection (the last is the most important thing). Babies do not really succeed in either regard. For the most part they just make loud noises and smelly messes. It's the same reason I'm not really a dog person. I like dogs and babies. I just wouldn't want to be the constant caretaker of one.
On the other hand, I think teenagers can be a lot of fun. Their lives are full of the good kind of drama, the kind of drama that involves a lot of emotion over nothing very consequential. It takes a long time for a baby to turn into a teenager, though.
Originally Posted by OrangeAppled
The legacy thing is strange to me and something I notice men speak of more (and perhaps why naming a child after themselves and passing down their family name and material possessions seems more of a concern for men).
It's not really a legacy thing for me. I have pretty much have no desire whatsoever to pass on my name, identity, etc. through descendents (that kind of thing I like to pass on through art, which I'm more in control of than my name and genetics). I just think it would be nice if a little speck of this body could transcend death for as long as possible. That desire isn't strong enough for me to want to have children, especially since my body will be living on in other ways (it will be returning to the ecosystem).
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I would like to have anywhere between 2 and 4 children, ideally 4 but we shall see (while I would be open to more, it becomes a hassle finding a suitable house for such a large family and traveling would be hard, too).
Between 3-4 - being a triplet myself, I'd be okay with raising this many kids later on in my life. I understand that siblings can be each other's best friends (even if at some point in their lives they believe each other to be worst enemies ), and hopefully will be there for each other throughout their lives.
I'm also fine with adoption.
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