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    I have no problem telling someone they are too fat, if it is a risk to their health.

    I also have no problem telling someone they are too skinny for the same reasons.

    Fortunately most people arent either of these extremes and I find others use their own subjective evaluation to purport that people are either too fat or too skinny...when usually they are neither. I certainly wouldn't call @greenfairy and @chana too skinny...that's just silly.
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    Apparently, women are always either too skinny or too fat (For what? Existing? Feasting other people's eyes? Who knows?). As long as Cosmo makes a pretty penny, the "magic number" will be a secret.

    Female body policing and objectification at its finest, I suppose. :/

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    It can be intrusive. When I was younger I was too skinny, and people would sometimes tell me they wanted to fatten me up with peanut butter, etc. It usually embarrassed me, and it wasn't news to me. It does strike me odd that people think you don't know about your body or other personal aspects of self. When people told me I was too skinny I felt like saying, "Yeah? well you haven't seen me naked, and I have so guess who probably knows more about what my body looks like?"
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    Quote Originally Posted by AffirmitiveAnxiety View Post
    I certainly wouldn't call greenfairy and chana too skinny...that's just silly.
    It was me.

    Quote Originally Posted by chana View Post
    i get this all the time. i was the skinniest bridesmaid at a wedding this summer and they were all hella rude to me and kept making comments about how i needed to eat a cheeseburger and shit. i wouldn't tell them that they shouldn't eat cheeseburgers. actually someone on this forum repped me something like that when i posted a picture here once so i took it down.
    It was me.

    You made me - the person who repped you - sound like a real A-hole.

    I also said you looked beautiful and that I liked what you've done with your hair - curls I believe.

    Dammit woman I like that picture. Don't be a prude. Upload it back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sprinkles View Post
    Yeah this happens to me too. I'm skinny and can't help it. I'm kinda glad because I have bad knees and a bad hip due to congenital problems plus an accident so I can do without any extra weight.

    That's another thing I get - people telling me to exercise when I get at least ten times the exercise that they do especially when I walk everywhere possible.

    I don't dare mention pain because I'll get a lecture about sitting at the computer - which I don't do constantly, I go outside and walk quite a lot in a day but this gets conveniently ignored - as if sitting at a computer has a magical ability to cause ailments any more than sitting at a television all day long like they do.

    I'm serious. They sit all day long only moving when necessary and don't exercise at all, and have the nerve to lecture me about being idle? I get more exercise than my entire family put together.
    That's messed up! Sorry you have pain. :/ Good that you get exercise and don't watch TV- I think television rots the brain.

    Quote Originally Posted by Viridian View Post
    Apparently, women are always either too skinny or too fat (For what? Existing? Feasting other people's eyes? Who knows?). As long as Cosmo makes a pretty penny, the "magic number" will be a secret.

    Female body policing and objectification at its finest, I suppose. :/

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    For sure. And people thinking they need to mind other people's business.

    And yes, I do think it's largely because so many Americans are overweight that it happens a lot here.

    Quote Originally Posted by fia View Post
    It can be intrusive. When I was younger I was too skinny, and people would sometimes tell me they wanted to fatten me up with peanut butter, etc. It usually embarrassed me, and it wasn't news to me. It does strike me odd that people think you don't know about your body or other personal aspects of self. When people told me I was too skinny I felt like saying, "Yeah? well you haven't seen me naked, and I have so guess who probably knows more about what my body looks like?"
    Haha, good point.
    Quote Originally Posted by Riva View Post
    It was me.



    It was me.

    You made me - the person who repped you - sound like a real A-hole.

    I also said you looked beautiful and that I liked what you've done with your hair - curls I believe.

    Dammit woman I like that picture. Don't be a prude. Upload it back.
    Please don't go around saying this to women, because if you do that's what you actually are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenfairy View Post
    Please don't go around saying this to women, because if you do that's what you actually are.
    I didn't say she looks skinny I said she looks slim in that particular picture. She has the ideal structure for her age and height.

    By the way I also said -

    Quote Originally Posted by Riva View Post
    I also said you looked beautiful and that I liked what you've done with your hair - curls I believe.

    Dammit woman I like that picture. Don't be a prude. Upload it back.
    I hope you are not one of those fanatics who take every word out of context and would argue for hours and hours, because I am not in the mood. Bottom line is I said/believe she looks beautiful and that she looks quite slim in that particular pic.

    Hmmm....

    Maye I am in the mood .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Riva View Post
    I didn't say she looks skinny I said she looks slim in that particular picture. She has the ideal structure for her age and height.

    By the way I also said -



    I hope you are not one of those fanatics who take every word out of context and would argue for hours and hours, because I am not in the mood. Bottom line is I said/believe she looks beautiful and that she looks quite slim in that particular pic.

    Hmmm....

    Maye I am in the mood .
    Telling someone they look slim is fine, but you also said "It was me" a couple of times, and I took that to mean it was you who was calling people too skinny (since you were responding to comments of that nature).

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    I used to get that all the time when I was a kid, because I was a very tall and skinny kid, and I hated it too. Now, though I am within the healthy weight range for my heights, I wouldn't mind hearing it now and then.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AffirmitiveAnxiety View Post
    I have no problem telling someone they are too fat, if it is a risk to their health.

    I also have no problem telling someone they are too skinny for the same reasons.
    How is it any of your business, either way? Are you a doctor? Even if you are, are you THEIR doctor?

    greenfairy, I hate body snarking of any kind. I was teased mercilessly for being a little chubby as a teen. In reality I was completely normal. Now, my daughter is tall and thin like her dad. At one time I was glad she wouldn't face the teasing I did for being fat. But people at school call her "skinny" and "anorexic" and it bothers her. I didn't realize as a teen that the thin girls got similar comments about their body. Everybody should just STFU and MYOB.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenfairy View Post
    I think people telling me I'm too skinny and need to eat more is just as rude as me telling someone they're too fat and need to eat less.

    And people have told me this a lot, and it's always fat people. I should say "No thanks, I'd rather look like me than you." For the record, I'm not anorexic, nor do I look it. I'm just skinny. I think they're jealous.

    Opinions on the propriety of this?
    Just tell them to piss off. Easy solution.

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