update: still haven't been to the doctors, had a month of no accidents so quit wearing diapers, than suddenly had 3 full blown ones in 2 days the first one was because i held too long the other 2 i got the signal than my bladder just released its contents into my pants. I don't get why this is happening, and why it isn't consistent. at least i still have control of my bowels, except their's been 3 times in the last year where i crapped myself for no reason.i ended up putting a poise pad on, just incase. though it tends (the wetting) happen more when i'm standing than sitting.
sometimes i can hold forever, other times a spurt comes out when i cough, than other times i'll get the signal go to the toilet, but before i can move i've wet myself and crossing my legs trying to stop it doesn't help