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    Default Why are some people softly spoken...

    While others are loud as f@#k!

    Eg. When I worked at a mail center once you could hear this freak of nature of a man from the other side of the room, what I thought was screaming, talking. It was so annoying I wanted to stick a rifle up his ass. Work people said, oh that's just normal, he's always like that. I would understand if he had hearing aid, you know half deaf. But no's this guy you could practically hear everything he said a mile away.

    Is it medical or just learned behavior to be softly or loudly spoken?

    Because quite frankly I used to be softly spoken too, ah well, I still am by particle degrees. Especially when I get that stoned look on my face and I just haven't got the energy to say diddly.

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    I know a guy like that. With him it seems clear that it is learned behavior, since he also has a certain fake confidence in it.

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    I don't know. People tell me to speak up all the time and I just can't. or it gets muffled and its like a mumbling quiet.

    I had this thought once I so need to remove my mouth tonsils, I asked people to remove it, none took me serious. I looked into it a bit. I'll look into it later when I have more free time.
    Oh then I thought that my thyroids broke my voice too deep and I sound like an african when I'm european. still quietly spoken but heh.
    I even went to a voice specialist, said I sounded fine, not happy. The hell they know, my body, my voice.

    I know these things like the back of my intuitive posterior end. You would think my voice would be booming instead the opposite has happened. And now its come back like its moved from my stomach to my throat and I can speak better. I had to suck in my diaphragm to speak and still be out of breath now I don't have to.

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    My speech is mostly on the quiet side, except when I get excited, people tell me I'm yelling. This is more often when I am too drunk to realize it myself. The only "problem" I have with my speech is that I can't say all the letters correctly. In Finnish that is. The language is a lot more hard sounding than English, and I can't do the R properly. It should sound really sharp compared to English. Other than that there are some other letters that seem to blur weirdly when I speak Finnish. I have none of these problems with other languages I speak. Kinda ironic...

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    Ok, one of my sisters prides herself on speaking quietly, and sometimes it would actually annoy me because I wouldn't be able to hear her clearly sometimes on the phone - and she does it on purpose.

    You see, a lot of the women in my family are loud and expressive: my mom, me, one of my other sisters...and apparently my ENFJ sister decided when she was a little girl that she never wanted to be one of those loud people. It was a conscious effort she made. I mean, she's not always soft-spoken, but she is a lot of the time and maintains an awareness of it.

    I think part of the reason why we are loud is lung capacity. I sang in school or church choir for much of my life and was told I had really good lungs and that's why I could project so well singing. So in that case it's probably a combination of genes and environment.

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    Its part of it, I can't imagine you being loud loud per say even with a more defined lung capacity. The person was screaming, people where I worked were raising their voices but to the way that dude was talking was normal. the difference is apparent.

    Lacks focus, wanted to talk...getting dizzy.
    Must want to write, dejavu, probably talked about this bfore.
    looks up techy stuff, crap this, too foggy to find detail
    Late thyroid issues slow speech and a hoarse, breaking voice – deepening of the voice can also be noticed, caused by Reinke's Edema.
    but voice stuffed up early. uhg why am i out of focus now after meant to be in focus, blurry.
    something about tonsils swelling of the lymph and closing the larynx and adenoids

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    I am naturally soft-spoken. I always were rather quiet, and sometimes people tell me to speak up which I find annoying for some reason (though I at least know then that they try to listen to what I say). I don't know why some people are more loud and some more quiet.

    Maybe I am drifting away a bit from what you mean, but I also noticed when it comes to phone conversations that some people suddenly speak unreasonable loud when they are on phone. Especially my father starts to nearly yell at the phone which is annoying. I just speak normal and people don't have a problem to understand me on phone, so what for yelling into it, as if they had to yell to the person adequately to the "real" distance?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eckhart View Post
    Maybe I am drifting away a bit from what you mean, but I also noticed when it comes to phone conversations that some people suddenly speak unreasonable loud when they are on phone. Especially my father starts to nearly yell at the phone which is annoying. I just speak normal and people don't have a problem to understand me on phone, so what for yelling into it, as if they had to yell to the person adequately to the "real" distance?
    If he turned the volume of the phone speaker up, he wouldn't yell. It is about him not hearing the other person well.

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    Nah, I mean, he is not calling me. I am in the same room as him while he talks, and occassionally I use the same phone which has not a low volume. He speaks always so loud into the phone. I don't think it is because he doesn't hear the other person.

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    I think it's mostly learned behaviour. Take my younger brother for instance; I have lost count of the number of times that myself and my other brothers have told that 8yr-old (mum had him in her 40's) ESTJ to modulate the volume of his speaking voice. He is just effortlessly LOUD. He's the last born and, sometimes, when we're being rambunctious (7 boys, what do you expect? lol) or having an animated conversation, he feels the need to yell and be highly animated so he can be heard over the 'tumult'. This tendency of his developed 2 or 3 years ago and it seems to have stuck.

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