I have a separated single mother friend whose 13 year old girl is texting to her friend about killing herself the other night.
This sounds serious so I suggested to her to tell the school and seek out professional help.
The kid is smart and pretty social but has problems in school (got busted drinking with a .18 BAC drinking alcohol with some other kids and then ratted them out). She has been grounded for an indefinite period for this w exceptions and I think some of the kids she ratted out are pretty damm upset. She has a pattern of going through best friends with the frequency of most people have for changing their bed sheets (and seems pretty good at making friends and is an extrovert, prolly a Esfp)
The spring semester of school has already started and she wants to be transfered to another school. Yesterday she got sick at school and came home and then started texting her friend that she wanted to kill herself.
How she acts reminds me of someone who is ADHD but the mother is against ADHD drugs (psychostimulents) the mother is also afraid of putting the kid on antidepressants because hearing the risk taking them or suddenly stopping taking them may cause suicide. The kid was taken to psychiatrists/psychologists before but she doesn't like them and will clam up or totally BS them.
The grandmother is suggesting a boot camp for brats but it seems like if she goes their she will be moved from a school in a nice area pretty high standards to being stuck with the dirty dozen of losers at a stage in life where strong peer bonds are formed.
The mother is overwhelmed and is suspicious this is just another strategy in a long history of manipulative schemes and capricious conduct. The father looks like he is going to prison a long time for white collar crimes.
Brat or Batty?
Suggestions on how to address?