No wanting. If you believe there is a significant problem, you feel a need to address it. I don't think such a thing is usually considered an act of wanting, though.
Poor choice of language to you, maybe, but I feel there must be a degree of want.. If you didn't want to, at least a tiny bit, think of yourself as fat.. then either you'd have to accept that you're not, or have a doctor tell you you are, in which case you'd simply correct it.
Seriously, I don't know how many women I come across that are fine.. maybe they need to gain strength.. but this is never a concern. It's always how they look, not whether the weight they own is muscle or fat. It's okay to have a ridiculously high body fat percentage as long as you look good with it. I don't understand the standards of health women have. Girls in aerobics class carrying 1lb dumbbells because they were scared of getting 'fat' from muscle.
I got a lot of ridicule when I said I wanted to lose weight. It wasn't that I was at an unhealthy weight.. only that I wasn't strong, and I was being lazy and unhealthy. Everyone, though, was worried that I was being hard on myself, that I was thinking of myself as fat even though I wasn't. The worry people have that this mental virus of women being fat in my family was in my head was all over the place until they saw me just lose the weight I wanted to, and maintain my health and eating habits. Only then did they calm down.
Is it not ridiculous? Pursuit of a spectre that is desired by no one? I've never "got it" but I've seen people "chasing the dragon" for decades. It's really sick, actually. Get real people. SRSLY!
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+1.
It's not surprising most women are hard on themselves when non-fat actresses like Jennifer Love Hewitt and Mischa Barton are absolutely crucified in magazines for being a 6 instead of a 2, and for having a little cellulite. The average woman might infer from that that she's "disgusting," or a "fat-ass," too, if her body looks more like those pictures than the Hollywood ideal, where it's not acceptable to have any body fat at all.
I understand that mentality, until you realize 1. They get paid for their looks and body to an extent. They're actors. The way they look plays a big role in their careers. Most people are not actors, however. 2. How down on yourself do you have to be already to allow some stranger that wrote an article in a magazine about someone else to have a dramatic effect on you and the way you preceive yourself?
I hate to pick on Domino when she's not here lately.. but that woman is beautiful. I haven't met anyone on here that hasn't thought so. And yet, of the thousands of compliments that she receives from people who care, it only takes one from someone who doesn't to make her frown. It's a vicious thing... One that I cannot possibly begin to understand, to be honest.