Anyone have a family member who has gone through this ordeal?
My father is 62 and I just learned that within a year he will probably need to go on dialysis.
(Sidenote: Men, **Get a physical at least every 1-2 yrs once you turn 45-50. My Dad went 5 yrs without going to the doctor, and then went in all of a sudden because he was frustrated with blurry vision, and it turns out his blood pressure had been off-the-charts (death level, they were shocked he wasn't dead) for quite a while and as a result his kidneys were destroyed.)
He's been on quite a few meds, and a regimented diet, for about 4-5 years now, but it still came as a shock last week to me when I learned that after his last doctor's visit, he was informed about need for dialysis by next year, and need to go on the transplant list.
I will be going to an all-day thing next week with my mother and father to learn about all of this, the options, etc etc, but right now I guess my brain is just adjusting to the fact that my dad might be dead within the next 5-10 years. It's really weird to be faced with that reality.
I'm also getting the initial fears regarding transplants -- already getting an internal sense of obligation from myself, as well as my mothers' unspoken hints, that I 'should' be willing to donate a kidney. But it's not something I really want to do, to be honest, or think I should have to do -- it's just the beginnings of guilt thinking I 'should' do it if I love him. So, uh....
Guess I don't know what to think at this point.
Anyone have any firsthand experience with all of this?