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    Yea, sounds cute.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cloakofsnow View Post
    For me it depends on whether I've got clothes on. I have absolutely no figure and am basically a scrawny toothpick. But I've got an attractive face, porcelain skin & glossy hair (as you can see, I'm very modest) and I like to dress nicely in my own unique way. So when I'm wearing clothes, I'm usually somewhere from feeling good about myself to feeling alright.

    But during the other situation, I'm really insecure. I can't tell you how much I envy other women who actually have a figure (e.g. curves).

    I can't relate much to the comments that people make about my appearance, like the words they use to describe me: dainty, elegant, tiny, cute, sweet... For years I was completely surprised to hear myself described that way.

    Well, there are men who like curves and men who actually prefer well-proportioned petite women. The kind of men who think slender-is-better just aren't quite as vocal as the sort who go around loudly and lustily singing the praises of bosomy bombshells. (Besides, generous curves that look good on a 20 year old rarely stay firm and "in all the right places" when she starts aging.) I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm also petite and I hear all the time about how dainty, tiny, pixie-ish and cute I am, and I've finally gotten to the point where I accept these words as compliments rather than wonder if I'm being made fun of. I figure, as soon as I start to show serious signs of aging, I'll start hearing myself described as a "little old lady" anyway, so descriptors are just... descriptors.

    And by the way, I'd encourage you to stop referring to yourself as "scrawny" or a "toothpick." There's a positive and a negative way to talk about every kind of physique, including whatever kind you think you'd prefer. If you put yourself down like that, that's going to influence the way you feel about yourself for a long, long time, and your feelings will influence the way you interact with others. Don't let negative thinking take over.


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    Quote Originally Posted by cloakofsnow View Post
    For me it depends on whether I've got clothes on. I have absolutely no figure and am basically a scrawny toothpick. But I've got an attractive face, porcelain skin & glossy hair (as you can see, I'm very modest) and I like to dress nicely in my own unique way. So when I'm wearing clothes, I'm usually somewhere from feeling good about myself to feeling alright.

    But during the other situation, I'm really insecure. I can't tell you how much I envy other women who actually have a figure (e.g. curves).

    I can't relate much to the comments that people make about my appearance, like the words they use to describe me: dainty, elegant, tiny, cute, sweet... For years I was completely surprised to hear myself described that way.
    Don't feel bad!!! I'm sure other people were jealous because you don't have to worry about your weight. You probably do look dainty, tiny, elegant, cute and sweet!
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    Women are beautiful each in their own way.

    I have met beautiful women who became ugly to me and other women who became goddesses as they revealed themselves. The best course is simply to treat one's self well and to strive for health inwardly and outwardly.
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    I'm curious to know how your self image fluctuates. Do you hold a consistent opinion on what you perceive is your level of attractiveness? For me it varies all the time. Sometimes I feel decently good looking and sometimes almost to the point of ugly. Curious as to what may be considered normal by hearing how others feel.

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    Hmm. I've noticed this about myself in the recent past, too. I actually thought that exact same thing, that my opinion of my physical appearance fluctuated widely from awesome to really un-awesome.

    I've balanced out more in recent days; perhaps because I have stopped avoiding the painful feelings that come with acknowledging I am perhaps just average-looking; not even on the better end of the average scale, but perhaps even on the middle-to-worse end. It's kind of hard to be very objective about one's appearance, but I think even if one is not blessed with good looks, there are a lot of healthy ways in which one can improve upon what has been given them; good hygiene; good style of dress; a thoughtful consideration for what hairstyle and colors might look best with one's own face shape, skin tone, overall combination of features, etc. Oh! I forgot a REALLY important one, perhaps the most important of all next to hygiene: physical fitness and body fat percentage.

    I think, also, that while it is definitely a great feeling to feel sexy and attractive to the opposite sex, and to feel aesthetically beautiful, that when it comes to those who really matter - significant others and friends and family - your looks honestly play such a small role to the good ones. Your overall character and personality are astronomically more important than your god-given looks. And personality and character heavily influence the likelihood that you will maintain good physical fitness, good hygeine, and pay attention to style and your overall appearance, which are just a few of the ways you can improve upon your god-given looks, whatever those may be. And that is a great feeling, and those are all facts, I think.

    So, in the end, it's sweet sugar in the cup of life if you have nice natural looks, but the real cup of tea or coffee is your personality and character, which influence everything from how you evaluate your looks to the health of your relationships and the overall happiness and peace of mind you experience.
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    I do that too. I usually look best at night and worst in the morning. I really think my appearance DOES change a lot though, it's not just mental...lighting especially, lack of sleep, and slight makeup can all make a big difference, at least for my face. And I think I look way different (better) in the mirror than in pretty much any photo, ever.

    So yeah, it definitely varies for me, I go from "scaring children" to "hawt" and of course everything in between.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Randomnity View Post
    I do that too. I usually look best at night and worst in the morning. I really think my appearance DOES change a lot though, it's not just mental...lighting especially, lack of sleep, and slight makeup can all make a big difference, at least for my face.
    I can relate to this very much. In an objective sense, my appearance can vary quite a lot, and sometimes I AM totally frumpy (whether it be from lack of sleep, hormones/time of month/whatever), and very much not hawt. So it's not all psychological for me either. And more than one person has commented on how different I look depending on my haircut or even whether I've parted my hair one way vs. another. It's kind of weird. (I guess I have a face shape/structure that just looks really varied/different depending on the hair). Then lack of sleep is a big one, and obviously the makeup thing.

    So yeah, it definitely varies for me, I go from "scaring children" to "hawt" and of course everything in between.
    That sounds about right for me too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hiddengem View Post
    I've also noticed that my opinion of my attractiveness also depends on how close or far away I am in relation to the mirror.
    That's true for me too. I prefer too see myself farther away from the mirror, because one doesn't see all the unattractive details. Other variants include, the quality and angle of the mirror, lighting and, most importantly, who else is around me.

    I pay a great deal of attention to other people's faces, perhaps to unhealthy degree. I constantly analyze skin color and quality, eye shape and color, nose and shape, chin size, cheekbones and eye brows. I live in a hierarchy of beauty where I constantly compare myself to others and look for ways to compensate.

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