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    Arcesso pulli gingerios! Eldanen's Avatar
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    Hey guys. Have any of you ever been so starved for social interaction that you tried to rush a new relationship so quickly that the other person got weirded out, or other interesting things took place? I tend to do this all the time after spending mounds of time by myself. And I do it somewhat naturally anyway. I'm pretty quick at finding out whether the other person and I have common ground or not, and I tend to leap at it, hehe. Also, feel free to just go off of the topic itself. I'm too tired to elaborate, but there's other stuff here .

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    Introvert here... always too busy giving the extrovert daggers for nipping in when I wanted to speak. Rushing in is not usually an option nevermind a problem. Though thinking about it when given the right platform I can go a little headlong....

    As for common ground, you are all my experiments. What is this common ground of which you speak?

    Isn't it time for a colourful metaphor?

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    Heh, I'm the person that get's weirded out when someone tries to rush me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    Heh, I'm the person that get's weirded out when someone tries to rush me
    ...yeah...kinda scared to answer this one....

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    Quote Originally Posted by bluemonday View Post
    ...yeah...kinda scared to answer this one....
    Do it !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    Heh, I'm the person that get's weirded out when someone tries to rush me
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    I actually do something similar. But I know I'd be wierding someone out if I came on too strong and started calling them all the time wanting to do stuff, so I start out by giving them a lot of facebook attention, and then hopefully from there, they'll agree to hang out without me pressuring them.

    And I have a few friends who I only see maybe once a month, but when we do hang out, we talk for hours. I dunno, they seem alright with it. They sort of disappear too, so it's not like I'm leaving them hanging.

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    I like socializing...I've just got this thing where it's just really awkward. :B I like it when others take initiative so I can take some cues and decide how I should handle the person.

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    My focus is always very broad. I've never rushed a relationship because it's never been my first priority. I don't care if it takes me a year to get to know someone because it's not like my life feels incomplete until it happens. There's so many people and so many things. I'm always occupied. I never worry about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eldanen View Post
    Hey guys. Have any of you ever been so starved for social interaction that you tried to rush a new relationship so quickly that the other person got weirded out, or other interesting things took place? I tend to do this all the time after spending mounds of time by myself. And I do it somewhat naturally anyway. I'm pretty quick at finding out whether the other person and I have common ground or not, and I tend to leap at it, hehe. Also, feel free to just go off of the topic itself. I'm too tired to elaborate, but there's other stuff here .
    This is what amazes me about the people I know who are both extroverted and intuitive... often the ENTs.

    I tend not to rush social interaction. In fact, it is quite the opposite; I tend to withdraw from it, as I prefer to keep to myself. Honestly, it does freak me out a little bit when people come up to me and immediately want to be friends. Being a strongly introverted INTJ, I tend to push back and push them away.
    "Science is the attempt to make the chaotic diversity of our sense-experience correspond to a logically uniform style of thought." -Einstein

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