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    Default Secret to happiness...

    Is low expectations?

    The Secret to Happiness and Compassion: Low Expectations | Psychology Today

    A new MRI study from University College of London indicates that the secret to happiness is low expectations. Author and neuroscientist Robb Rutledge says, “Happiness depends not on how well things are going but whether things are going better or worse than expected.”

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    This somewhat strikes me as a "water is wet" kind of study. Nothing wrong with that whatsoever, but it does lack impact because of it. It's well known in psychology circles that "should" statements make it more likely for an individual to experience disappointment. Too many broken "shoulds" and an individual will get upset. Really, should statements add up to creating higher and higher expectations.

    At this point, I don't believe there is a key to happiness. There is too much variance with people, and as a result there is no good forumula to apply to everyone. For as many people who are happier with lower expectations, there are others who are uneffected, or has no correlation to their personal happiness.
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    I read an economics book and it says that happiness comes from earned success. If you work really hard at something and succeed at it, that makes people happy.

    My peak happiness period was from 2nd through 6th grade. It's been downhill since. I would say that I was very happy during that period because I got to spend lots of time playing sports and spending time with people I liked and I didn't have to worry about adult stuff (paying mortgages, taking care of the kids, etc).

    So basically: low stress + lots of fun = happiness
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    Using your talents to the best of your ability.
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    Using your talents to the best of their abilities to have good sex.
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    Giving zero fucks.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sacrophagus View Post
    Giving zero fucks.
    Apathy is the depressed cousin of happiness.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anticlimatic View Post
    Apathy is the depressed cousin of happiness.
    Hell yeah. I'm desperately happy.
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    From "Dhammapada", a Buddhist text: "If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him."

    Maybe this is true; all those fat buddha statues show a very happy person.
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