"No problem" vs "you're welcome"

[Agent Washington]

If anyone regardless of "generation" is looking for alternatives.....
You’re welcome (F)
No Problem (I)
Sure thing (I)
No worries (I)
Cool (I)
It’s all gravy (I)
Certainly (F)
Of course (F)
That’s absolutely fine (F)
Don’t mention it (F/I)
It’s nothing (I/F)
No probs (I)
You’re very welcome (F/I)
It’s my pleasure (F)
No sweat (I)
Not a problem (I)
No Prob Bob (90's)
Pray don't mention it(Thorin Okenshield)
Forget about it (I)
T'wern't Nothin' (I)

Pray don't mention it(Thorin Okenshield)

 

[anticlimatic]

... Aren't you 30? That would make you a millennial.

35, and all my peers were older.

 

[Agent Washington]

35, and all my peers were older.

Millennials - Wikipedia

That is very diverse
The Americans I hung out with mostly used "absolutely" regardless of their age.

 

[anticlimatic]

Millennials - Wikipedia That is very diverse The Americans I hung out with mostly used "absolutely" regardless of their age.

My peer group was decidedly Gen X, of which I was among the youngest and final members.

 

[OrangeAppled]

This is some Fe crap. Understand the meaning behind the words and stop looking for ways to make people wrong so you can be offended and feel "unappreciated".

 

[prplchknz]

i tend to say yes mam no mam yes sir no sir your welcome when dealing with people i don't know. but as soon as you fucking tell me to use manners it makes me not want to. fucking bitch cunt ass face.

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

We just need a phrase that means everything...

 

[anticlimatic]

This is some Fe crap. Understand the meaning behind the words and stop looking for ways to make people wrong so you can be offended and feel "unappreciated".

This is some Fi crap. No one care about deeper meaning in quick business transactions with strangers. This is where it pays to Fe.

 

[Shiver]

Civility is objective, and authenticity doesn't matter. It is not a performance of one person, but a performance of two. Hating or resenting your job has nothing to do with it, unless it inspires you to be uncivil due to some feelings of inadequacy- which is more on the employee than on the innocent customer who has arrived to negotiate an exchange (however petty it may be). Ideally civility is authentic, the same way it's ideal that the meal presented to you tastes good, but the entire point of civility is to keep commerce flowing smoothly in those (ideally rare) moments when it is not. If the moments are not rare, it might be a good time to get out of the service industry. It definitely worked wonders for me.

Considering how terrible most millennials are at business and trade I'm not surprised how many of them vie for socialism and put their own feelings of value over their own market viablility.

Since you've acknowledged the gestures as a performance, my question is mainly this: If civility ought to ideally be authentic, why then do you demand a falsehood when it is not?

Though I think you may have already answered it, insisting that "authenticity doesn't matter". You seem to hold the value of the dollar above that of one's humanity. I would expect that many of the millennials you refer to resent the pressure to lower themselves to holding the same sort of measurable value as any given object they're running across the scanner for you.

This is some Fi crap. No one care about deeper meaning in quick business transactions with strangers. This is where it pays to Fe.

If that is the case, why get so bothered about a lack of false gratitude?

 

[Population: 1]

Everybody just needs to calm the fuck down!

No problem, you're welcome.

 

[OrangeAppled]

This is some Fi crap. No one care about deeper meaning in quick business transactions with strangers. This is where it pays to Fe.

It's not "deep" meaning. It's so obvious you already know that "no problem" is just another way of saying "you're welcome" when someone thanks you for something. There is nothing to be puzzled out.

If your goal is efficiency in business transactions, then accept what is meant and move on! You are the one insisting on deeper meaning when you quibble over the socially correct phrasing for a sentiment.

With Fe types, you could throw them a freakin' parade to show your gratitude, but if you have the balloons the "wrong" color, they will whine about inappropriateness and feeling unappreciated, and then they will try to solve this balloon dilemma as if that's what it all boils down to.

These social protocol police especially love to debate over the minutest details of human interaction and what people should in every mundane instance of daily life. That's what's going on here.

 

[Red Memories]

I often forget words entirely and just nod in acknowledgement.

 

[anticlimatic]

I often forget words entirely and just nod in acknowledgement.

A nod works better than a no problem I think.

 

[anticlimatic]

Personally I use "my pleasure," but something about the response/point to this meme rubs my logic the wrong way. Can't quite put my finger on it.

Ok I figured out the flaw in the no problem argument here. Unless it's deliberately stating the obvious, which is illogical and unlikely, "no problem" comes off like a correction to the expectation that the deed for which the individual was thanked was a problem for them- or that the fact that they were compelled to do something for someone else was a problem. It's like creating a glass is half empty expectation for the exchange by alluding to the notion that helping people is inherently a problem, and then brings it up to uninspiring mediocre par by simply stating that it wasn't in fact (this time).

 

[Shiver]

Why shouldn't I begin with the notion that their very existence is an imposition on my precious time?

 

[Obfuscate]

A nod works better than a no problem I think.

why?

 

[anticlimatic]

Why shouldn't I begin with the notion that their very existence is an imposition on my precious time?

Because it's not in anyone's interest, especially yours.

why?

Because it acknowledges without diminishment, which is the purpose of 'you're welcome' rather than 'no problem.'

 

[Yuurei]

When I work as a Cashier I say " Thank you." because that is how customer service is supposed to work.

If they say " thank you" first it's usually because my charming self had initiated a freindly conversation and being formal seems inappropriate. I'll say " Sure/yep! followed by " have a good day."

 

[Yama]

This is some Fe crap. Understand the meaning behind the words and stop looking for ways to make people wrong so you can be offended and feel "unappreciated".

Don't see how that's related to Fe...

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With Fe types, you could throw them a freakin' parade to show your gratitude, but if you have the balloons the "wrong" color, they will whine about inappropriateness and feeling unappreciated, and then they will try to solve this balloon dilemma as if that's what it all boils down to.

Sounds more like extremely immature Fe than Fe itself. Or just immaturity regardless of type. I hope you don't think all Fe types act like this.

 

[jcloudz]

People are looking to be offended. I personally don't expect gratitude for that which im obligated to do an plus It's not a burden an so I use this as a response. This is such a harmless response. Please don't interrupt the ergonomic flow of traffic an pull people aside for silly pettiness an inconvenience everyone. If it's an issue see a therapist. People like this are the ones that cause me to wait longer in line when I want in an out pronto