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Self-esteem

Giggly

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Greetings fellow aliens. :hi:

I see this concept being referred to a lot. How do you define it?
 

Condor

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I define it as the evaluation of myself, based on my own standards.
 

disregard

mrs
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It's hard to define, so I will define it (good self-esteem) in relation to my own life:

A stable sense of self-value throughout your days, whether your are popular or not, attractive or not, successful or not. It's a grounded sense of identity and worth.
 

The Ü™

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I don't define it, the dictionary does.
 

Kora

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Does that even exist? [/teenage angst]

Now. Accepting oneself with all of our virtues and flaws objectively seen. Or something like that. But objective.
 

Anja

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For me it plays out in "I'm okay, you're okay."
 

GZA

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It is the continuum of your attitudes and perceptions about the world and about yourself. It is reflected in your optimism, enthusiasm, confidence, work ethic, or lack thereof of all of those.
 

GZA

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There you have it then.
 

INTJMom

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Greetings fellow aliens. :hi:

I see this concept being referred to a lot. How do you define it?
For me, I understand self-esteem best when I think of it as self-respect.
The more I do that I can respect myself for, the more self-esteem I build.
 

prplchknz

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For me, I understand self-esteem best when I think of it as self-respect.
The more I do that I can respect myself for, the more self-esteem I build.

that could be my problem, I don't have self-respect so maybe that causes me to have low self-esteem. Or did I develope low self-esteem and in the process lost my self-respect?

I can't define it, all I know is I don't think I've ever had any. I've always thought myself as unworthy, even though I try to tell myself I am worthy, it doesn't work.
 

Grayscale

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within our relationship to ourself, where we place ourselves relative to others.
 

nolla

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It's ok to be me. I don't know anyone else I'd rather be.
 

INTJMom

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that could be my problem, I don't have self-respect so maybe that causes me to have low self-esteem. Or did I develope low self-esteem and in the process lost my self-respect?

I can't define it, all I know is I don't think I've ever had any. I've always thought myself as unworthy, even though I try to tell myself I am worthy, it doesn't work.
That's like asking which came first, the chicken or the egg? :smile:

I've struggled with poor self-esteem and feelings of being unworthy of love for most of my life, too, but mine came from being abused as a child, so it's been a long healing process. Also I was depressed for a long time, and that is demoralizing as well.

Here's a cool site:
The Enneagram Type Test
See if it has something to do with your enneagram.
Apparently, that can be a contributing factor, although it's another one of those "which came first" questions, I think.
 

Kaizer

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me living by my principles (which should be universal etc) and at least meeting my standards based on those principles if not improving on them. self-respect more so maybe?
 
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