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    Default What are your expectations and biggest fear in a relationship ?

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    ...keep it simple.

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    Wake, See, Sing, Dance Cellmold's Avatar
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    Expect understanding (knowing the naivety of asking for such given our natures), fear one or both/more wont.
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    Being manipulated/controlled.
    CHOOSE THE PATH THEY'LL NEVER TAKE

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    Honesty and compassion are what I hope/expect in a relationship.

    I fear dishonesty, apathy, and angry, distorted perceptions in a relationship.
    Step into my metaphysical room of mirrors.
    Fear of reality creates myopic morality
    So I guess it means there is trouble until the robins come
    (from Blue Velvet)


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    That the other party won't have as advanced coommunication skills as I do or be as driven as I am. Tied for first with that, that the other person won't have much more of an earning potential than I will.
    Jarlaxle: fact checking this thread makes me want to go all INFP on my wrists

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    Senior Member Rouskyrie's Avatar
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    Expectations: None. I try to start with no expectations as I enter a relationship.
    Biggest fear: Infidelity.
    9w1 So - 2w1 Sx - 5w6 Sp.
    Body triad - 9 > 1 > 8.
    {9 - 80%; 1 - 15%; 8 - 5%}.
    Heart triad - 2 > 4 > 3.
    {2 - 68%; 4 - 22%; 3 - 10%}.
    Head triad - 5 > 7 > 6.
    {5 - 40%; 7 - 35%. 6 - 25%}.
    Phlegmatic > Sanguine > Melancholic > Choleric.
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    That I have made the wrong choice and will harm them, and that I bring much less to the table than they do.
    4w3 6w5 1w2 sx/sp ISFP

    RLOAX (don't do it)
    Melancholic Hufflepuff
    A lonely island where only what is permitted to move moves, becomes an ideal. Jung

    Kiss Kiss [johari] Bang Bang [nohari]
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    I expect to lose myself due to being unable to hold back and I fear that they will realize I have nothing to give them.
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    Expectation: Honesty, compassion, support, loyalty.
    Fear: Unfaithfulness, dishonesty, disinterest.
    to thine own self be true
    johari | nohari

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    "timber..." Peter Deadpan's Avatar
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    Expectations: I expect others to put continuous effort into being open, honest, authentic, and vulnerable with me. No rushed pace, but noticeable effort and growth.

    Fears: That he will not be able to handle me being open, honest, authentic, and vulnerable with him (I feel like I'm just too much for most men. Too real and raw and scary to them in a foreign way. It's a lonely feeling.)

    I also fear my past repeating itself and worry he will turn out to have a hidden dark side that will frighten me - like aggression and anger issues.
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