"Social pain" activates same brain circuits as physical pain

[Olm the Water King]

Why being wrong really hurts | Life and style | The Guardian

Why being wrong really hurts

When we are criticised it hurts our feelings, but the pain goes much deeper than that, says Paul Randolph

Why do sensible and rational people seem to lose the ability to act sensibly and rationally when they are in conflict? What makes some families tear themselves apart in a variety of squabbles which to outsiders may seem petty but which result in family members not speaking to each other for years? What drives neighbours to blight their daily lives with unpleasant, bitter and confrontational disputes? And how can otherwise placid and restrained people become almost unrecognisable when involved in road rage incidents – or even trolley rage in supermarkets?

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[geedoenfj]

In my opinion, any criticism towards anyone is kind of putting them in a position of underdog, because for your criticism to be valid and reasonable, you have to be someone who's qualified for it, someone on a higher level than the critisized person, and by doing it you may sound like trying to boost your self esteem by picking on others weaknesses or let's say faults..
However,we should differentiate between a constructive criticism and over criticism, and between advice and humiliation..
If you criticize someone try to be polite in clarifying your point, if it is over criticism don't try to justify yourself, doing that would make you lose your charm and lose some positive energy.. if you want to advise him you better do it either secretly only you and him, or by telling a little story from your experience of how to deal with the given situation so he wouldn't feel like he's being pushed or anything..

I liked how they describe saying sorry is like putting your hands on fire, well put your hands in fire and regain the respect for yourself, it's worth it, it really is

 

[Kheledon]

F is real, and for many of us, an F offense is worse than a physical injury. It would be unwise to underestimate the extent to which our emotions strongly affect our health and well-being. Humans are naturally emotional animals.