I know misery loves company but I had no idea it was so aggressive.
I love company too but I took it for granted that everyone was seeking the joie de vie.
This was my mistake and quite a big mistake.
So I very foolishly engaged with depressives.
Depressives have a world view that they not just cling to tenaciously but aggressively promote.
And they will often insist on politeness and good manners while they emotionally poison you.
Depressives want to, insist on, confirming their world view.
And their thinking is good, it is their emotions are vile.
And so they can be logical and good mannered, while inducting you into their poisonous emotions.
Depressives are a bit like paranoid schizophrenics who are the most logical people in the world.
So depressives rationalise their emotional world view and try to foist it on you.
Depressives are quite like drug addicts - no matter what they say, they always return like a dog to its own vomit - to drugs or, in this case, their depressive emotions.
There are two big problems. The first is that emotions are invisible and so we often overlook them - and they are very easily denied.
Also emotions are contagious and can easily infect others without their knowing.
Also depressives are in very large numbers - as depressive feelings are one of the most common complaints brought to doctors.
Also we live in the therapeutic society and are enjoined to sympathise with depressives. To sympathise is the worst thing you can do - it doesn't help the depressive and leaves you open to contagion.
To sympathise with depressives means you are going to feel the same poisonous emotions as the depressives.
The safe way to relate to depressives is to empathise because you can empathise without feeling the same as.
But the problem is most think they are empathic when they have no training in empathy, and all they can do is sympathise in the guise of empathy. And so quite naturally, they feel the same as the depressives.
And so depression is of now epidemic proportions in the West.
We have succeeded, at least in Australia, of protecting ourselves against AIDS by the use of prophylactics. But we have no protection against depressives.
Depressive emotions are invisible and contagious and depressives are emotionally aggressive.