It never happened intentionally. For example, I would be in a relationship and I would simply talk of the value of education and then the person I was with would go to college and graduate sensing that I was going to leave soon. They probably were adopting my values in an effort to bind us.
I guess at the root of it is fear of commitment. It always boils down to having total control and freedom. That's why I probably go after women who aren't good for me. That means if I fail or succeed I have an excuse to exit.
Basically, I just want total freedom in every day and the idea of a commitment is unbearable.
I never think before hand that I could fix anyone. There is no conscious intent. That's why I wrote this as an anima issue.