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    Funny, I always have difficulty saying yes.
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    I have trouble saying no as well. It's like a knee-jerk reaction especially when it comes to my loved ones. I think I have a serious need to avoid conflict and keep everyone happy.

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    @Complexity I might have a solution, so you know how you can't seem to form the word "no" just say to them "I ain't gonna say yes" I was thinking you should say "I'm not gonna say yes" but then realized if you can say not you probably could train your mouth to say no.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    @Complexity I might have a solution, so you know how you can't seem to form the word "no" just say to them "I ain't gonna say yes" I was thinking you should say "I'm not gonna say yes" but then realized if you can say not you probably could train your mouth to say no.
    Interesting. Thanks for the suggestion, maybe I will try your method.

    I also have another method. Saying "I don't know" and then giving myself some time to ponder whether to say yes or no is also another good method.

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    There is a time when one must make the choice to say no.

    Are you saying yes because you want to go or because someone else wants you to go?

    Are you saying yes to please someone else? Or are you saying yes to please yourself?

    I think of it this way, it is better that I want to go rather than feeling like I am forced to go. I am quite sure others feel that way to.

    Think of saying no as not something against the people asking you a question, but that it is something for yourself.

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    On the flip side, it's better than saying no every single time! =p

    But anyways, I have the same trouble as well!! ESPECIALLY when I was younger - for me, I was afraid of saying no because I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings..

    I learned from experience though it's OK to say no and be a little selfish.
    This past summer there were times when my friends asked me to hangout, but I felt completely exhausted after work.. I had to tell them no, and there is nothing wrong with that.

    It's ok if you miss out on a social event, as long as you don't make a habit of saying no every single time =P
    In general, having a balance is always key!

    And there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! I went through the same problem and I still do, haha.. It's just something to work on, but don't beat yourself up for it

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    Those people need to stop fearing other people.
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    Im a straightforward person.....and life is a balance....i always say no if its not in mym interest to say yes.
    Good result (vs. Soton)...still have to go #Arsene

    Tengo los conocimientos estardiar....no hay un motivo para estar al tanto de la reunión que sucedió hace mucho tiempo ....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mademoiselle View Post
    Those people need to stop fearing other people.
    I think what you are saying is worth examining, but may come across as pejorative to some.


    For many, an intense desire for emotional closeness causes paralysis, indecisiveness and inaction.
    It is important to remember that you cannot achieve profound emotional closeness with someone unless you embrace revealing your deeply negative thoughts as willingly as your positive.

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    I'd say it's about not setting boundaries, or more pertinently not acknowledging one's own needs. So it's in a way fearing others. To me, we're all human and on a grounding. Nobody should be intimidated by others.
    Good result (vs. Soton)...still have to go #Arsene

    Tengo los conocimientos estardiar....no hay un motivo para estar al tanto de la reunión que sucedió hace mucho tiempo ....

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