Hard to say. I think it's most important for me to feel like I have a positive impact on the people's lives I touch. Even if it's just being friendly. I'm pretty liberal with my definition of 'important'.
You hem me in -- behind and before;
you have laid your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.
I think the better words than "important" to describe what I utterly desire are "significant" and "irreplaceable", and I wish to be significant and irreplaceable to a few people in my life, my parents, my partner, my children, my best friends, even my close workers.
I loathe being described, thought of, talked about, talked to, treated, loved, cared for like everybody else, or anybody else. For myself and within every person I've connected to, I must have an authentic identity.
Hence it's easy for me to feel unimportant or insignificant. Most of the time, people don't put much thought and energy into truly identifying the people in their lives. Not everyone allows themselves to dive truly deep into another person to discover their uniqueness; people settle with their own reflection on somebody else. And so after a while a person you know is just another face. That IS scary.
When I leave a work place, if I hear that I'm hard to replace for the detailed good work that I've done, I know I'm important. When I'm with a partner, if I'm aware that I make him feel and do things he has never before, and the things we do / say are different and beyond what's between him and his previous, I know I'm important. When I go home after a night out with my friend and they let me know that it's been a long time since they could talk / have fun with somebody that way, I know I'm important.
Say, it's an INFP type 4 thing?!
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I'm not one to stand by and let life pass without influencing it. Ideally, I could stand to be important.
But being in the public eye leads to a lot of wrongheaded scrutiny, a thing that I wouldn't have the patience to deal with. Having statements misconstrued because I didn't word them just right? No, thanks.
J. Scott Crothers
Founder, Truthtology, est. 1952
Prophet and Channel, God Almighty
Author, the Holy scripture Elevenetics
"Just as jet fuel cannot melt steel beams, so too cannot the unshakeable pillars of Truthtology ever be shaken, whether by man, nature, or evidence."
The idea of doing things that are redundant or irrelevant bothers me. If what I do could just as easily be done by someone else, then I have nothing of my own to contribute. It's a waste of my time to stick around. I want to participate because my involvement seems valuable or necessary.
Not sure how important it is to me because I rarely feel like I'm doing anything useful. Well, it's important enough to be noticeable to me.
I think it's important to me to be important in the right context. I would prefer to be regarded within my family and within my career as someone worthwhile. I have no desire for fame, though, and I don't feel an overwhelming drive to impact the world in a major memorable way in the long run. I just want to play a part in making the world the beautiful, happy, wondrous place my parents introduced me to when I was a child. Circle of Life and all.