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    Quote Originally Posted by AffirmitiveAnxiety View Post
    So I should ignore areas of weakness?
    For the time being I guess... Just capitalize on your strong points and collect some achievements under your belt, then use that accumulated potential to work on your weak points...

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    Quote Originally Posted by yeghor View Post
    For the time being I guess... Just capitalize on your strong points and collect some achievements under your belt, then use that accumulated potential to work on your weak points...
    Oh can you tell me what you see my weaknesses as maybe being? I TS always useful to get other perspective's.
    'One of (Lucas) Cranach's masterpieces, discussed by (Joseph) Koerner, is in it's self-referentiality the perfect expression of left-hemisphere emptiness and a precursor of post-modernism. There is no longer anything to point to beyond, nothing Other, so it points pointlessly to itself.' - Iain McGilChrist

    Suppose a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?"
    "Suppose it didn't," said Pooh, after careful thought.
    Piglet was comforted by this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AffirmitiveAnxiety View Post
    Oh can you tell me what you see my weaknesses as maybe being? I TS always useful to get other perspective's.
    Sorry, I don't know you that well...

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    Quote Originally Posted by yeghor View Post
    Sorry, I don't know you that well...
    Fair enough.

    Do you have any observation of ESFP weaknesses?
    'One of (Lucas) Cranach's masterpieces, discussed by (Joseph) Koerner, is in it's self-referentiality the perfect expression of left-hemisphere emptiness and a precursor of post-modernism. There is no longer anything to point to beyond, nothing Other, so it points pointlessly to itself.' - Iain McGilChrist

    Suppose a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?"
    "Suppose it didn't," said Pooh, after careful thought.
    Piglet was comforted by this.
    - A.A. Milne.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AffirmitiveAnxiety View Post
    Fair enough.

    Do you have any observation of ESFP weaknesses?
    -Unhealthy\insecure one's may try to compensate for their feelings of not being intelligent\smart enough thru bragging about their knowledge or being on the look out for opportunities to put down others...(Te-tert)
    -May be impulsive, promiscous, violent, pleasure-seeking... (Se-dom)
    -May have emotional fluctuations, which may correspond to bipolar or borderline personality disorder in some cases... (Fi-aux)
    -May be paranoid about how others think of them (low Ni)

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    Quote Originally Posted by AffirmitiveAnxiety View Post
    As a disclaimer I'll try not to be pissy and dismiss advice as I did in the 'friend job' thread, I find it difficult because I've taken advice my entire life, but without the reasoned notion of picking apart that advice first. Which makes me a bit over the top with it nowadays.

    Anyhow I could do with some advice on methods to minimise my tendency to compare myself with others, ONLY on the qualities and achievements they possess that I do not.

    It's a cause of stress in myself I realise and if I can let it go and diffuse this arrogance, I might actually have a chance of being happy for once in a while instead of judging inside and out, unfairly to both myself and others.
    Find something you can do that makes you feel confident. This is often easier said than done. People start comparing themselves to others when they have major insecurities in their life (everyone has some insecurities).
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    Quote Originally Posted by yeghor View Post
    -Unhealthy\insecure one's may try to compensate for their feelings of not being intelligent\smart enough thru bragging about their knowledge or being on the look out for opportunities to put down others...(Te-tert)
    -May be impulsive, promiscous, violent, pleasure-seeking... (Se-dom)
    -May have emotional fluctuations, which may correspond to bipolar or borderline personality disorder in some cases... (Fi-aux)
    -May be paranoid about how others think of them (low Ni)
    I relate to all of those except the Se - dom one, I'm rather tame on that account, but that might be something to do with upbringing.

    Quote Originally Posted by johnnyyukon View Post
    Find something you can do that makes you feel confident. This is often easier said than done. People start comparing themselves to others when they have major insecurities in their life (everyone has some insecurities).
    Isn't that just propping yourself up on others though?
    'One of (Lucas) Cranach's masterpieces, discussed by (Joseph) Koerner, is in it's self-referentiality the perfect expression of left-hemisphere emptiness and a precursor of post-modernism. There is no longer anything to point to beyond, nothing Other, so it points pointlessly to itself.' - Iain McGilChrist

    Suppose a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?"
    "Suppose it didn't," said Pooh, after careful thought.
    Piglet was comforted by this.
    - A.A. Milne.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AffirmitiveAnxiety View Post
    As a disclaimer I'll try not to be pissy and dismiss advice as I did in the 'friend job' thread, I find it difficult because I've taken advice my entire life, but without the reasoned notion of picking apart that advice first. Which makes me a bit over the top with it nowadays.

    Anyhow I could do with some advice on methods to minimise my tendency to compare myself with others, ONLY on the qualities and achievements they possess that I do not.

    It's a cause of stress in myself I realise and if I can let it go and diffuse this arrogance, I might actually have a chance of being happy for once in a while instead of judging inside and out, unfairly to both myself and others.


    TL;DR thread but:

    You can. Shift your attention to the feeling, disassociate yourself with it, create a space where you can breathe and keep the feeling in the middle of said space.

    Now turn it around, how does it look, where does it feel in your body and what is it trying to hide from you? What would be the opposite of what you see/experience?

    Try observing it with all the senses, focused inside and see the changes it makes according to how you decide to look at it.

    If you wish, you can dissect it, create a chain of events that led to this feeling and find the root-causes.

    (this happens in your inner field of vision, whether with open or closed eyes - doesn't matter)

    Personally, I typically use a "void-space", there's nothing in it except what I wish to observe.

    Sometimes I just look at the changes it takes, at other times I wish to pick layer to layer and see the insides outside.

    Another favorite practice of mine is to create a parallell line of where my "unconscious" thoughts arise around it, voices blabbering about and begin a chain of bubbles behind it, each building into the other yet separated events;
    I call it a chain, because the key is the feeling growing stronger or lessening in strength. There's often many keys between the images but since I've set my focus on a particular one, I prefer to just grab the keys that I need for the locks that I've set out to open. Basically, after enough times doing this, you'll find yourself having a knack for which keys. Often keys don't feel like keys but you'll know.

    I often also make a timeline, where I can place the events inside, for the easy overview and since I am raised in the "rational" way. It is just as easily accessible through a spherical interface, just differently exposed. Both ways work well, that being said, I've tried to have a chaotic disharmonious "file-tree" but I haven't reached the same kind of understanding and release with it. I do implore that you will find your own way.

    My experience is only for bare shell necessity, as to give the idea something to stand upon and liken to. I expect you to find something that isn't similar and that which works for you and this could be the first step in a path of many - if you so choose to act. If not, there's many other paths.
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