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    Quote Originally Posted by johnnyyukon View Post
    Your thread title and your thread description are very different.
    no they're not the first line is the completion of the title
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    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    11 people (so far) never worked in customer service.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Ü™ View Post
    11 people (so far) never worked in customer service.
    or have actually read the post
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    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    The only times I'll do it that I can think of as justifiable are the ones where it is in self-defence and it is meant as a 'shock' to get through to someone who just won't hear you otherwise - because it is the only form of communication they understand or respect.

    That would also mean that you would not continue to do it if it didn't work on the person (instead of venting and escalating the situation - extremely hard not to do btw), and that you'd only follow up with that same attitude if you noticed that it worked but more is needed. It also means that you'd stop the second they backed off instead of taking the offence (again, this can be hard as it almost feels like your hunting instinct has been triggered and hounding almost comes natural to ensure maximum safe space between you two).

    That said - in theory people would never do this. In practice, we're all human and we've all snapped at some point or another. I think the best you can hope for in people is the self-awareness from the person who snapped that they just did, and the ability to own it and make amends later on (or even during), and understanding of mitigating circumstances for the person who gets snapped at, which would also help them realise that this aint about them and it's nothing personal.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    or have actually read the post
    Okay, I read it and my answer is still yes. I have ADD, so that's my excuse for not reading it, and this is analogous to PMS and moodiness.

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    While I do think it's human for people to end up being terse or otherwise less considerate when under a ton of stress on occasion, for various psychological/physiological reasons, kneejerk reactions, etc- understanding why someone might be more edgy than usual does not condone their behavior. Self-monitoring & good communication about what you're going through is important. Apologizing when you've done this & making a marked effort to improve on your internal stress management is also important. If you just sweep it under the rug, it never gets better, & relationships may be irreparably damaged.

    If the person is incapable of reflecting upon their actions (in the moment or near future) & discussing it with you (& making clear efforts to improve and actually improving over time), then it's probably a good idea to distance yourself emotionally from them, as that sort of lashing out is just plain abusive when there's no remorse or resolve to manage problems/emotional reactions differently.
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    I don't think having a bad day/whatever is necessarily an excuse to justify bad behavior, but a way to say don't take it personally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Ü™ View Post
    11 people (so far) never worked in customer service.
    Hah! Not me. And working in it has taught me to only reserve extreme rudeness for MAJOR ASSHOLES. And I always tip at least 20% unless I see the waiter/waitress spit in my food (hasn't happened yet).

    As far as being rude cuz you're in a bad mood, I don't do it. I'll stay home if I'm in a REALLY foul mood, just so it won't rub off on anyone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Ü™ View Post
    11 people (so far) never worked in customer service.
    What?
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Ü™ View Post
    11 people (so far) never worked in customer service.
    Quote Originally Posted by Urarienev View Post
    What?
    People that work in customer service are often treated very rudely, so it would follow that they don't do it themselves. At least, that's my case. Waiting tables, dealing with customers is HARD work considering the pay.
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