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    Default dropping hints vs being direct

    Like what's the advantage to dropping hints? it seems like it would cause more frustration in the long run. People can't read your mind, just say what you need to, and move on, if they don't like it, that's their problem. I'm sorry it just seems like a coward thing to do. maybe there are times when simply dropping hints is a good idea. I can't think of any.
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    In my experience, it's part of some manipulation. People want you to think that you thought of an idea yourself, and become more supporting of the idea. You're getting someone used to the idea of something so that they're more accepting of it. Or, it's not really dropping hints. It's testing out someone's acceptability of an idea maybe?

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    Being direct all the time would make interaction incredibly boring



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    Quote Originally Posted by theDarkSide View Post
    In my experience, it's part of some manipulation. People want you to think that you thought of an idea yourself, and become more supporting of the idea. You're getting someone used to the idea of something so that they're more accepting of it. Or, it's not really dropping hints. It's testing out someone's acceptability of an idea maybe?
    not telling someone, what the problem is dropping hints.
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    no it wouldn't.
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    I think it was the great Victor (forgot what his name is now) who said that being direct is the death of seduction. I think there are appropriate times to be direct and appropriate times to be indirect. Of course, no one can be perfect in always getting the timing correct.

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    Like what's the advantage to dropping hints? it seems like it would cause more frustration in the long run. People can't read your mind, just say what you need to, and move on, if they don't like it, that's their problem. I'm sorry it just seems like a coward thing to do. maybe there are times when simply dropping hints is a good idea. I can't think of any.
    I don't know that it's cowardly, so much as implying, "I want this to be YOUR idea and not MINE; just in case, I'll drop a few hints just to make sure."
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    being direct is the death of seduction.
    This.

    And are we talking about in romantic dealings only, or in social interactions in general? In business, dropping hints to get things done is probably going to end in a bankrupt business.

    If it's in pleasant social interactions, drop hints first, then be direct. You don't want to come off as a dick unless you have to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by johnnyyukon View Post
    This.

    And are we talking about in romantic dealings only, or in social interactions in general? In business, dropping hints to get things done is probably going to end in a bankrupt business.

    If it's in pleasant social interactions, drop hints first, then be direct. You don't want to come off as a dick unless you have to.
    dropping hints is a waste of time. and I mean with friends, and i'd rather have directness instead of some passive agressive bullshit/
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    dropping hints is a waste of time. and I mean with friends, and i'd rather have directness instead of some passive agressive bullshit/
    Well, so what's stopping you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by johnnyyukon View Post
    Well, so what's stopping you?
    I am direct, I'm referring to other people. I have no situation currently that I need to be direct.
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