overactive super-ego

[Avocado]

I beat myself up constantly for not being as good as I should be, and I really can't get away from feeling like I am not as good as I should be.

 

[á´…eparted]

I beat myself up constantly for not being as good as I should be, and I really can't get away from feeling like I am not as good as I should be.

Me too. I am a 1w2, so I do this all the time. It's essentially my core drive.

However, one needs to learn how to step back from that. It doesn't do good to obsess over this and mope about the things we don't have, can't be, or could have been. Use them as important learning tools, and strive to be better.

Also, perfection does not exist, and it never will.

You're 17 though, with time it will become easier.

 

[skylights]

I beat myself up constantly for not being as good as I should be, and I really can't get away from feeling like I am not as good as I should be.

Welcome to the club.

Kind of sucks on one hand, but, on the other, at least you're always aiming higher.

I try to confront it by living in (and enjoying) the moment.

 

[yeghor]

At the risk of sounding vain, this is how I (my superego) feels sometimes:

I hope to achieve that enlightenment thing some day...

 

[Totenkindly]

Me too. I am a 1w2, so I do this all the time. It's essentially my core drive.

However, one needs to learn how to step back from that. It doesn't do good to obsess over this and mope about the things we don't have, can't be, or could have been. Use them as important learning tools, and strive to be better.

Also, perfection does not exist, and it never will.

You're 17 though, with time it will become easier.

Yes, at some point you realize you're human and that there are "reasonable flaws" versus things you need to change. I'm a lot less driven by guilt nowadays and more about simply wanting to be better at the things I'm not. But getting over the hardcore Superego can be an arduous process, since head knowledge isn't the same as heart knowledge and you need time to "grow into it."

 

[five sounds]

I beat myself up constantly for not being as good as I should be, and I really can't get away from feeling like I am not as good as I should be.

it took me a while to get out of that. i had to reach the point where i was faced with the damage i was doing to myself with that mentality. then i was able to see that that damage was holding me back from being what i actually could be if i were just focusing on accepting my strengths and weaknesses as such, and working with them from a place of self-support rather than self-criticism. i can honestly say that i'm able to do more this way than i ever was the other way. i've found it freeing and mobilizing, while the other way was restrictive and paralyzing.

 

[Avocado]

it took me a while to get out of that. i had to reach the point where i was faced with the damage i was doing to myself with that mentality. then i was able to see that that damage was holding me back from being what i actually could be if i were just focusing on accepting my strengths and weaknesses as such, and working with them from a place of self-support rather than self-criticism. i can honestly say that i'm able to do more this way than i ever was the other way. i've found it freeing and mobilizing, while the other way was restrictive and paralyzing.

Thanks. I intuited something like that, but my Fi hasn't caught up, yet. I think it attacks me almost as bad as my lowest two modes do...

 

[Avocado]

At the risk of sounding vain, this is how I (my superego) feels sometimes:

I hope to achieve that enlightenment thing some day...

That would be amazing!
I would like it, too.