Yes, I think it is very INFJ'ish but more specifically, it's Fe in action. The veracity of information is very much tied to who delivers that information in the Fe world. There's this association of people and information in Fe that is much more "at the hip" than in the Te - Fi world. For Te - Fi, the two seem far more separated.
Note how my old chestnut "Je is always right" barely registers for you. But to INFJ, it's a very hot button. Actually, thanks to this thread I'll update that one: "Je is attached to the condition of being right." And it is. But to Te, it's easier to let go of that because your ego structure is not AS invested in the sharing of the "objective logical" space through Fe.
I've witnessed so many occasions irl I can hardly count them all where two people are saying basically the same thing but the person who is more "liked" or "credible" is listened to more seriously. I think for myself, as a Je last, I can be most detached to see this? Not sure. But it is something I seem to frequently notice.
Don't have time this morning to more fully flesh this out.
peacebaby, i understand you are trying to explain this, but what about how it could feel to someone else in my position? for instance, if you got in a fight with another person that escalated quite a bit, and then you went around talking about them in public, trying to establish facts about them that were gleaned from your uniquely privileged perspective (as a Je last, which you seem to use as evidence that you understand them the best), what would that feel like if you were in their shoes? what would it look like to you as an objective observer? what would you do when you as a person had to try to balance those two for yourself? would you be frustrated and feel like from the perspective of the objective observer, that was wrong, and would that challenge your ability to empathize with yourself more than seemed fair to you, because you have to make up the difference about what it feels like through your own self-compassion?
i mean, is it generally a useful approach to reconciling conflict by talking about what someone else is and trying to take control of that, rather than working outward from your own needs and finding a place where you can connect to some kind of empathy with them or with, even more importantly, yourself? Te does not work without Fi registering its own needs. it's just domineering. it's just focusing on playing the rightness game, which often times prevents real listening (as an impersonalization of "knowledge" can tend to do, especially if the knowledge is not rigorous, reflexive, and as aware of its limitations as it can possibly be). just like Fe doesn't work without being able to hold yourself accountable to committing to your own reality (Ti). is it better to deny that conflict even exists so that you can act without being reflexive to the context surrounding why you choose what you do? that may work for Te/Fi in some sense, and maybe it even works for Ti/Fe in some sense, but it doesn't seem to me to ever work for the F part of that, the relational part. it's just easier to communicate if the relationship is positive. i don't think this is a type thing. i think it's an F thing, which is a crucial part of all of us, even if some types of activities and some types of participants can shift their focus away from this more so.
furthermore, if you were in the place trying to negotiate your objective reality with your inner experience, and you were already sensitive from a fight, would this behavior signal to you, as an objective observer, an attachment to being right on the part of the other? would that be frustrating? what would an attachment to being right look like to you? to me it looks like an unwillingness to listen to what others are experiencing and how your actions affect others quality of experience. that's how it shows up in me and in others actions that i've observed. would you be more or less likely, if you felt hostility from someone and your own anger rose to meet it, to hear them as well as if they approached you with openness that helped you relax and be more open as a result? how would you feel if, for another person after a conflict, this is the only activity in the thread that is worthy of participating in, the chance to talk about the other and try to get to define them once more? i understand that questions are controlling in their own right. all conversation is, because we have to negotiate the context. i don't know how else to try to show that i find this frustrating, or open up my experience in a way that is objectively defined enough to be shared. you are making claims (in this case, about us). that's what Te does. i can refute you, but generally the F side of that process gets ugly. if you made a claim about how a specific behavior that we could both observe affected you in a specific instance, that would be a way of using Te that would not have so much F fallout. that's because a) it's less of a sweeping generalization b) we can observe it, so it doesn't just feel like an attack on us as a whole and c) it's easier to test/verify. this latter is important, because i DO NOT DOUBT that there is a grain of truth to what you see. but regardless, it's difficult not to think that your claims are too big for you to make, and wonder why you feel the need to make those.
finally, for my needs, i don't need any peacemaking with umlau. i can speak for myself. i understand if you feel you have needed information and that, from a Te perspective, you have feel you have every right to interrupt to supply that. bc it's just information. others can test it for themselves. you're just putting it out there. you have the right to add whatever information you have that can direct where things go from here. but what about if the relationship between you and the person addressed is in a challenging place for both of you? would that interruption be more provoking, if you then addressed and attempted to define him, rather than let him answer? umlau and coriolis have asked very good questions which i personally need time to consider, because i want to understand the disconnect between us, because i recognize we are different and understanding what that difference is like for him and what it is like for me helps me feel connected to myself in a bigger way, because i can appreciate and enjoy relating with those who are different than me and still take that in as part of myself, can still share across those boundaries of mentation.