Person: "When you do this, it's perceived as ___"
Me: "Well what I was TRYING to do was ____"
Person: "Not what I meant. I meant, when you do this, it's PERCEIVED as ____"
Me: "But that's not what I was doing! I was doing ____"
Person: "Stop making excuses!" and/or "Whatever, let's drop it."
Problem is, it's hard for me personally to see a comment like "I perceived this as being (insert incorrect assumption here)" and NOT take it as "I had an incorrect assumption that I still believe and thus needs to be corrected -- that incorrect assumption was frustrating me and I would feel much better with some resolution and closure". Not saying that Coriolis or Uumlau were coming from this position (they probably weren't), and not trying to turn this into a "why do Fe users act like this to me" thread.
One way that I don't relate to the above post, or some of the things that Uumlau posted earlier in the thread, is that my need to be right is probably as much internal as external, and has very little to do with control. It has to do with control in the sense that, as a Te-dom, I do want to use the information at my disposal to exert my will upon the environment -- I want to use it as ammunition in my fight to achieve my goals -- but control is a means to an end, not an end in itself, and it's not all for the sake of "image". I can't count the number of times when I've been embarrassed by a factual error that no one noticed I made. I wasn't embarrassed because other people saw -- I was embarrassed because I didn't measure up to my internal standards. Generally speaking, based on what I've read in this thread thus far, it doesn't sound like my embarrassment could possibly measure up to INFJ embarrassment in similar situations, though, and it would never deter me from continuing to act. Like uumlau and other Te-users have been saying, it is all about learning, and once the feelings of the moment pass, you have to think "Now I know that was wrong; time to find what's right. Moving on."
As for "my facts beat your facts": I've compared this elsewhere on the forum to a puzzle with similar pieces and little to no way of knowing what the final picture will look like. (This may be specific to Te/Ne.) Let's say someone points out a flaw in one of the puzzle pieces I've laid down -- a dent, a problem with the color -- and then they hand me a new piece that ALSO fits but looks much better than the previous piece. Maybe I get a bit upset for the reasons mentioned above. Maybe I feel a bit jealous that the person clearly knows better than me. But if the person is friendly, 99% of my reaction is "Oh sweet, a better piece! Thanks for your help!" In that sense, all us Te-doms/auxes, in theory, are out to have the best information we can, and when we work together to achieve that goal, it DOES involve competing facts. Which shouldn't matter if/when our egos are put aside.