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    Default I don't believe in unconditional love

    There's always condtions.even if they're unknow something can happen that will.change. I can't explain what I mean and a bunch of people are.going to disagree but I believe that there's no such thing, except maybe mother to child, but I don't know never had kids

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    There does always seem to be a condition, if even the condition is that the person giving "unconditional" love is to feel good about themselves for doing so.

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    see, it doesn't worry me that there isn't "unconditional love" so much as that i just don't see much genuine concern between people. i can understand why it's not unconditional. i just don't understand how twisted many people are with the "love" they give out.
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    I tend to be more on the believing side.

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    ^ me too, it's just hard to come by.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chanaynay View Post
    ^ me too, it's just hard to come by.
    i wanna be a believer too, but i think young people (and maybe older people too) often confuse codependency with love. this is just the observation i've had so far, though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Honor View Post
    i wanna be a believer too, but i think young people (and maybe older people too) often confuse codependency with love. this is just the observation i've had so far, though.
    Well, let's say you truly unconditionally loved someone. If that person's existence was erased from the world, you'd be devastated. In that sense isn't your emotional well-being dependent on that person's existence then?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chanaynay View Post
    Well, let's say you truly unconditionally loved someone. If that person's existence was erased from the world, you'd be devastated. In that sense isn't your emotional well-being dependent on that person's existence then?
    not what i'm talking about, chandler, dear. of course you'd be devastated. of course love involves dependence. i'm talking about couples i've observed who stick together for a long time even when the quality of the relationship is really poor because they're too codependent to leave. which is a great recipe for emotional abuse imo.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Honor View Post
    not what i'm talking about, chandler, dear. of course you'd be devastated. of course love involves dependence. i'm talking about couples i've observed who stick together for a long time even when the quality of the relationship is really poor because they're too codependent to leave. which is a great recipe for emotional abuse imo.
    Ahh I see, you mean people being idiots. Yeah I know a few people that's happened to.
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    I don't think I believe in unconditional love as a rule, except maybe that of parents for small children. I don't really think that's a bad thing because love or not, most relationships are rightfully conditional and should generally be as reciprocal and balanced as possible. To me, unconditional love is more akin to pity and there is a place for pity, but it's not what I want in my significant relationships.
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