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Which specific compliments rub you the wrong way?

Fluffywolf

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I just mean it would be healthy to develop those tertiary and inferior functions to add to a persons strengths. Like... maybe you could benefit in your personal world by developing more Si/Fe.

I know I would benefit from more Ni/Te to supplement my Fi/Se.

I think my Fe is pretty developped already in many aspects of my life (not all). But I think I developped it in a way that doesn't require me to leave the comforts that are Ti and Ne.

My Fe is noticable all over this forum though. Fe is the teacher that slumbers within me.

edit: Just thought about this and I think it is my Fe that largely decides where I focus my Ti and Ne on.
 

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edit: Just thought about this and I think it is my Fe that largely decides where I focus my Ti and Ne on.
Cool -- I'm the same way, but with Fi and Te. Fi is what aims the Te Sword of Justice. ;)
 

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ok when someone calls you nice, are they implying you're boring?
 

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Possibly, but the person saying it could also be boring for handing such a cheap compliment.
^ Agreed.

I forgot that another one that REALLY bothers me is "you seem chill" -- for the same reason (namely, b o r i n g)
 

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^ Agreed.

I forgot that another one that REALLY bothers me is "you seem chill" -- for the same reason (namely, b o r i n g)

Aw no chill is a really good compliment. Just means yer not uptight.
 
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^ Agreed.

I forgot that another one that REALLY bothers me is "you seem chill" -- for the same reason (namely, b o r i n g)

If I say someone is chill, it doesn't mean I think they're boring. ^ What [MENTION=18819]nicolita[/MENTION] said.
 

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Aw no chill is a really good compliment. Just means yer not uptight.
I guess it depends on who's calling me chill... I like it from friends and acquaintances, but there's something about hearing it from guys that really bothers me...
 

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I guess it depends on who's calling me chill... I like it from friends and acquaintances, but there's something about hearing it from guys that really bothers me...

Hm that's kinda interesting actually. Do you think it's because you like to be perceived as like motivated and like having done a lot?
 

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Hm that's kinda interesting actually. Do you think it's because you like to be perceived as like motivated and like having done a lot?
I think it's because it's so incredibly common, and commonly misused -- especially when guys are trying to call THEMSELVES chill in an attempt to attract girls, regardless of whether or not those guys are actually chill. The term not only becomes boring, but it loses almost all of its meaning.

/is basing most of this off of OkCupid
 

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I think it's because it's so incredibly common, and commonly misused -- especially when guys are trying to call THEMSELVES chill in an attempt to attract girls, regardless of whether or not those guys are actually chill. The term not only becomes boring, but it loses almost all of its meaning.

/is basing most of this off of OkCupid

I find your raw rebellious nature to quantify and validate the various aspects of your life to be invigorating, inspiring and refreshing. You are much to dynamic to be called chill.
 

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I find your raw rebellious nature to quantify and validate the various aspects of your life to be invigorating, inspiring and refreshing. You are much to dynamic to be called chill.
Floating Duck Syndrome: calm above water, paddling like crazy underneath.

(Also, thank you. :heart: )
 

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Having the chance to submerge myself in the inner workings of one so unique is a privilege. There is no need for thanks!
 

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Having the chance to submerge myself in the inner workings of one so unique is a privilege. There is no need for thanks!
:)

I suppose there's no way most of you folks could know this (except those of you who have friended me on Facebook), but I am much more reserved irl. Not that I'm shy, or anything, but the vast majority of things I post on my blog are things I would tell only my closest friends and family irl. I'm forthcoming on the blog because I decided why not treat it like a safe space? -- so, keeping that in mind, feedback like this is just about the best validation I could possibly get. Validation on things that I keep in 99% of the time.

/sappy derail
 

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:)

I suppose there's no way most of you folks could know this (except those of you who have friended me on Facebook), but I am much more reserved irl. Not that I'm shy, or anything, but the vast majority of things I post on my blog are things I would tell only my closest friends and family irl. I'm forthcoming on the blog because I decided why not treat it like a safe space? -- so, keeping that in mind, feedback like this is just about the best validation I could possibly get. Validation on things that I keep in 99% of the time.

/sappy derail

The same holds true for me and probably most of us here. That is why I love this place. It gives us insight in people that would otherwise not share that insight with others apart from in the most intimate of situations. Not that it wouldn't be nice to learn someone like this in the most intimate way known to man, but I believe that is reserved for a specific few in ones life.
 

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Yes [MENTION=4945]EJCC[/MENTION] and @ Fluffywolf... me too probably.
 

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Any general compliment like "You're so smart" and whatnot rub me the wrong way. I want to know specifically why you think that. Also, being called cute is a no. To me, it sounds like the person is talking to a kid or a dog.
 
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Any general compliment like "You're so smart" and whatnot rub me the wrong way. I want to know specifically why you think that.
I couldn't come up with an answer to this thread until I read this. Same here.
 
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