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    Quote Originally Posted by Saudade View Post
    If I say someone is chill, it doesn't mean I think they're boring. ^ What @nicolita said.
    I only say someone is chill if I'm talking to Arnold Schwarnegger in Batman & Robin. So, I never call someone chill.


    "You have similar values." Or something related to political opinions. Believe it or not, there are lots of men who aren't Republican, so that's not a ringing endorsement.

    Also... I agree that being called "nice" is annoying. If someone calls me kind, that's ok. But nice=boring.
    [Trump's] rhetoric is not an abuse of power. In the same way that it's also not against the law to do a backflip off of the roof of your house onto your concrete driveway. It's just mind-numbingly stupid and, to say the least, counterproductive. - Bush did 9-11


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    Quote Originally Posted by bologna View Post
    I couldn't come up with an answer to this thread until I read this. Same here.
    Those kinds of compliments just sound cheap to me. Anybody can say them without putting any thought into them.

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    The only compliments that bother me are the ones that appear to be an attempt at manipulation (e.g., sucking up). I don't seek praise really at all, and am sometimes uncomfortable in the moment I'm getting it, but a sincere and meaningful compliment from someone I respect is definitely appreciated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mcgooglian View Post
    Any general compliment like "You're so smart" and whatnot rub me the wrong way. I want to know specifically why you think that.
    Worse than that: "You're so nice." It's the most generalized, non-descript compliment you can throw at someone.

    Although I don't mind it as long as it comes from a place of sincerity.

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    "Good job" without any explanation as to how I did a good job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glycerine View Post
    "Good job" without any explanation as to how I did a good job.
    what if it's a hand job or a blow job? would you be confused then?

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    Hah! You got me.

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    In a prior post, I alluded to the process of differentiating yourself from others' perspectives.

    However, I think there are a few complements that irk me - how they irk me largely depends on whether I think they're appropriate for the context.

    For instance, if I make a honed effort to deliver explanations or thoughts for a friend, I'd rather someone complement me for being helpful than for being intelligent.

    Basically, most complements that refer to a static property that I can't control get under my skin to a degree.

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    Compliments that graze only the surface of something that end up completely ignoring something more important that lurks beneath the surface get to me. Or compliments that show what the complimenter values versus what I, the supposed complimentee, values.

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    No. I pretty much take all compliments.

    Some I value more than others though. Like if someone says I'm selfless or something I might not think that is such a great thing as it allows you to be taken advantage of. I value competence more than compassion in general.

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