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    Are there certain emotions you have trouble experiencing yourself or perceiving in others?

    I have been discovering that I tend to be oblivious to anger. Lots of time i miss it when someone is angry - i just think they are anxious, deep in thought, or maybe joking. I don't often feel anger, so i don't expect it in others. This actually gets me into a little bit of trouble occasionally. I've just had people surprise me that they are actually angry, or apologize to me for being angry when i never noticed.

    It's a peculiar feeling to come to this realization, and i was just wondering if anyone else ever experiences something like it?
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    For me it's the negative emotions that I have trouble with, anger and anxiety are the most difficult. Expressing sadness is not a problem for me.

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    I think the depth of anger is a problem for many NFJs. I want to believe that all of my motives are altruistic and that other people are that way too, so I tend to (or used to) tamp down my anger until I exploded. THEN I'd become aware of how angry I was.

    I don't acknowledge emotional cruelty either. I tend to sweep it under the rug because I don't want people to think I'm a crybaby.
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    I can perceive what emotions people have and what(when I have one. Often time I simply ignore the person.)my responding emotion is fairly easily. The difficulty I have the most problems with is finding out what emotion they want me to have as a reaction ie the emotion that will solve the dispute so I can get back to whatever the hell I was doing before they interrupted me with their petty opinions and emotions.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPiranha View Post
    I don't acknowledge emotional cruelty either. I tend to sweep it under the rug because I don't want people to think I'm a crybaby.
    Sometimes cruelty doesn't register on my radar at all, unless it's in a more extreme or obvious manner. Passive aggression often misses the radar (or barely makes a blip) for similar reasons.
    The degree of obliviousness for those two depend mostly on how "numb" or stupid I feel at that time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by toonia View Post
    Are there certain emotions you have trouble experiencing yourself or perceiving in others?

    I have been discovering that I tend to be oblivious to anger. Lots of time i miss it when someone is angry - i just think they are anxious, deep in thought, or maybe joking. I don't often feel anger, so i don't expect it in others. This actually gets me into a little bit of trouble occasionally. I've just had people surprise me that they are actually angry, or apologize to me for being angry when i never noticed.

    It's a peculiar feeling to come to this realization, and i was just wondering if anyone else ever experiences something like it?
    I don't experience most emotions very often. I rarely get angry, sad, or excited. Most of the time I'm just optimistic and moderately happy. I probably come across as fake to a lot of people who can't relate to that.
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    Sadness for me. I can recognize it somewhat in other people, but in me I wouldn't be able to tell. Either I don't feel it, or it doesn't translate well. Even in a depressive state, I couldn't ever categorize myself as being sad, as I tend to become too emotionally apathetic to recognize that it exists.

    Also, even though I do recognize it in other people, I am bad at responding to it. My friends have already learned this and have back-up plans if they actually need to talk about that sort of thing, heh. It sounds terrible, but I honestly have no way of responding without unintentionally making it worse.
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    My "people radar" had to be so hypersensitive growing up, I think I probably tend to read in too much rather than not notice a particular emotion at all.

    I also find that my thinking could ruin my emotion perception: There are lots of things I actually pick up on but when i think about them too much (overanalyze), I confuse myself.

    As far as my own emotions, the last few years have been a revelation for me in regards to a few emotions:

    - Deep-seated desire (I had trouble knowing what I really wanted)
    - Anger (I didn't realize how mad I was over something = hurt over something)
    - Disappointment in others or a situation.

    All emotions I had learned to ignore/neglect as a child, to survive my life. But you can tear down the blocks and "regain" them, I think.
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    I'm a disallower of disappointment too.
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