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    Default Shying away from private messaging...

    Do any of you ever feel shy when setting out to contact someone via the PM feature? I don't know if it's just me, but I tend to steer away from that kind of talking and I use it as little as possible, although not only because the amounts of PMs I can send are limited.

    Also, in PMing, I am normally the PM recipient rather than the sender.

    Does anyone else share this sort of feeling?

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    I'm probably more extroverted in PM than I am in public forum.

    Does it feel more intimate to you... thus more revealing, personal, and scary?
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    I prefer conversations in PM actually.

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    I'm not shy of PMing. I enjoy reaching out and having a discussion with friends of mine on here. I am delighted when I receive PMs from people I don't talk to often.

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    I usually don't send pms, but I have when I need to clarify a misunderstanding. I do reply back to pms. So I don't usually initiate.
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    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Yeah, I'm more shy of posting in public (due to worrying about the consequences of whatever it is I'm saying) than PM, where I feel more laissez-faire about my content and style.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    I'm probably more extroverted in PM than I am in public forum.

    Does it feel more intimate to you... thus more revealing, personal, and scary?
    Well, it's not like I'm a stranger to TMI moments, but it's just that most of my PMs have been about business (of sorts).

    How I got this thread concept was by noticing how so many members from different MBTI forums do a lot of private messaging (by looking at their user pages), so I started to think that maybe PMing wasn't for business or reporting technical problems, but for more personal conversations. Somehow, that's what I thought most of them were about.

    I'm not very good at initiating conversations like that, but apparently, more people are than I thought.

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    I'm the same as the OP. It doesn't make sense to me, it feels good receiving them, and I'm quite confident once they're in motion, but I'm unlikely to send one for fear of being obtrusive.

    I feel similarly towards rep (is that right?) and commenting on peoples' pictures. I'm guessing it's an English prudishness mixed with introversion taking me into the irrational.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Uberfuhrer View Post
    ...I'm not very good at initiating conversations like that, but apparently, more people are than I thought.
    Oh. Wow.

    well... yeah.

    I have 5000 PMs in my inbox (either coming in or going out) from the last year, and some are extremely long, and the majority are NOT about business.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Uberfuhrer View Post
    Does anyone else share this sort of feeling?
    No.

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