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    Default Are you more self expressive as you're older?

    I've thought, that my self expressive nature and hobby to experiment with my style, clothes, or hair are just a part of me being a teenage girl and I'd grow up from it, but now when I am 20 I am even more self expressive, than when I was 15. I dress things I'd consider as too extreme when I was younger, and I also started to experiment with pretty crazy haircolors, or body piercings... Did this happen to anyone else, or did you grow up from this type of image seeking and self expression?

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    Polly,

    I do volunteer work at a home for the elderly once a week and self-expression is like most things; it depends on the individual. I will say this, for most people, the older you get, the less you care what others think of you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ene View Post
    Polly,

    I do volunteer work at a home for the elderly once a week and self-expression is like most things; it depends on the individual. I will say this, for most people, the older you get, the less you care what others think of you.
    yes and it should be pointed out at 20 you're hardly out of the throws of caring what others think of you, at least that's how it was for me.

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    It seems like more people become more self expressive once out of high school and when they're in their early twenties. You don't have your high school peers to mock you anymore or your parents to get on to you, so there is more of a sense of freedom to figure out who you are. Especially with the identity seeking 4's.

    I agree with @Ene, that as you continue to get older, the less you'll care what others think of you and the more you'll begin to feel comfortable in your own shoes.

    By the time you hit your mid twenties, you should gain a better sense of identity and feel more set in who you are.
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    I started experimenting with my style as a teen. Of course, it was a part of exploring your identity and a natural tendency to pay more attention to your appearance at that age. I just started applying the creativity I had used in drawing & other art as a child to my appearance.

    I'm not less experimental now, but I have a more defined style. I know more what suits me and what does not, and a better sense of appropriateness without feeling constricted.

    As for emotional expression - I am much more open & expressive with feelings, especially positive ones. I used to be very withdrawn & contained.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    I started experimenting with my style as a teen. Of course, it was a part of exploring your identity and a natural tendency to pay more attention to your appearance at that age. I just started applying the creativity I had used in drawing & other art as a child to my appearance.

    I'm not less experimental now, but I have a more defined style. I know more what suits me and what does not, and a better sense of appropriateness without feeling constricted.

    As for emotional expression - I am much more open & expressive with feelings, especially positive ones. I used to be very withdrawn & contained.
    I can relate to your emotional expression. 4s are often desribed as "drama queens", but I am also not very emotionally expressive, I am also more withdrawn & contained.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Polly View Post
    I can relate to your emotional expression. 4s are often desribed as "drama queens", but I am also not very emotionally expressive, I am also more withdrawn & contained.
    Yeah, I'll never get this. I may strongly voice my opinions but my drama is usually turned inward. My husband last night told me that I'm usually so consistent with my external emotions. I think this is hilarious considering I am constantly exploding inside. It made me realize, though, how much most people probably miss about me. I'm working at getting those emotions out, but it's hard.

    I think it would be more accurate to call fours internal drama queens. Also, I think the drama usually comes out through creative expression. I write some pretty dramatic poetry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by brainheart View Post
    Yeah, I'll never get this. I may strongly voice my opinions but my drama is usually turned inward. My husband last night told me that I'm usually so consistent with my external emotions. I think this is hilarious considering I am constantly exploding inside. It made me realize, though, how much most people probably miss about me. I'm working at getting those emotions out, but it's hard.

    I think it would be more accurate to call fours internal drama queens. Also, I think the drama usually comes out through creative expression. I write some pretty dramatic poetry.
    Me too! While the emotions inside of me are almost always on fire I have my "cool" face. I love writing poetry to get all the emotions outside. It is a great way of expression

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ene View Post
    I will say this, for most people, the older you get, the less you care what others think of you.
    Agreed. I think this correlates to your self identity solidifying and generating confidence/esteem.

    Quote Originally Posted by brainheart View Post
    ...consistent with my external emotions. I think this is hilarious considering I am constantly exploding inside.
    This really resonated with me. I've gotten way better at releasing the positive energy bursts. I still am working on converting negative energy and redirecting. This energy conversion and expenditure keeps me sane and my mood oscillations within a tighter range. I think this is due to practice/age.
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