(I don't call this "submission" btw. I call it back pedalling. Need someone that's gonna give in once in a while and back pedal, cause it shows they care more about the relationship than being right all the time. Fe does this very nicely. ENFJ's do it the most ime, then INFJ's following close behind)
PS (Also just guessing but....I think that other people may say that you're an E6 a lot cause that sounds a little like fear of abandonment. Not saying that I think you are E6 or anything, just saying that I know that fear now when I see it, and that could be what you're projecting)
Your syntax could be correcterer than mine. And yes, Fe users tend to do exactly what I'm talking about while Fi doms tend to think there is something they're supposed to be sticking up for.
As far as abandonment issues goes... there isn't any fear of abandonment like any e6 or e4 would express from my end. But I do feel great hurt. My pain threshold is the size of an idiot when I'm not pretending it doesn't exist.
Christianity is a revolutionary religion starting at year zero. Literally starting at year zero, for we count our year 2013 Anno Domini (AD - After the Lord) from year zero of the Christian Era.
However all revolutionary impulses try to start from year zero. Of course the revolutionary Pol Pot of Cambodia took his country back to year zero in 1975.
And the French revolutionaries of 1787 started Year 1 of the French Revolutionary Calendar.
The Yankee revolutionaries were even more ambitious and tried to turn English itself back to year zero.
English, you remember, is an historical language, in that spelling and meaning are dependent on the history of every English word, so Noah Webster, of Webster's American Dictionary, tried to erase history from English by changing the spelling of English words.
Noah was only partially successful as the Yankees failed to impose their spelling on the rest of the English world, but he was successful in deracinating Americans by creating American English.
And it is American English that has succeeded in erasing the history and meaning of the words, 'empathy' and 'sympathy'.
Yes, the Americans have not only deracinated themselves, they have deracinated the meaning of the words 'empathy' and 'sympathy'.
I think people can learn and "internalize" empathy to some extend. I think narsistic and psychopaths/sociopaths can learn about empathic behavior but they don't "internalize" it.
I think narcissists can learn to internalize it, but not psychopaths- if my understanding of their distinction is correct. Narcissists repress it (and feelings of shame) as a coping mechanism, and the goal in treatment is to get them back in touch with their own feelings of shame (and in so doing, with empathy); whereas psychopaths just aren't capable of feeling shame in the first place? I have no idea what the recovery of a narcissist actually looks like though, or if it's really possible (or remotely typical) for them to get to a healthy equilibrium.