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    How to tame it.

    The difference between being overly shy, having social anxiety, and being an introvert?

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    Shyness: bashfulness
    Social anxiety: condition
    Introversion: indication of direction in which energy cycles

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    I've been wondering the same thing, for a long time. I believe it's more of a confidence issue, man. Seeing as how you are an INFJ, I'd say confidence can easily be outweighed by perfectionism. Just work on balancing your self esteem and your perfectionism and I believe you'll slowly rebuild.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rail Tracer View Post
    How to tame it.

    The difference between being overly shy, having social anxiety, and being an introvert?
    It's basically fear. The more time you spend out there with other people and talking/interacting with them, the more it dissipates. I think you can do little steps at a time. Also, once you start talking it's easier to talk more, so interjecting early in a conversation is always good.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rail Tracer View Post
    How to tame it.

    The difference between being overly shy, having social anxiety, and being an introvert?
    It is a mental disorder which occurred sometimes in year, may have some variation in it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Calbyr View Post
    I've been wondering the same thing, for a long time. I believe it's more of a confidence issue, man. Seeing as how you are an INFJ, I'd say confidence can easily be outweighed by perfectionism. Just work on balancing your self esteem and your perfectionism and I believe you'll slowly rebuild.
    Quote Originally Posted by highlander View Post
    It's basically fear. The more time you spend out there with other people and talking/interacting with them, the more it dissipates. I think you can do little steps at a time. Also, once you start talking it's easier to talk more, so interjecting early in a conversation is always good.
    What about social anxiety? I think with many anxiety and phobias, it doesn't just go away with more interaction. Sometimes, interaction may even exasperate it.

    Would changing the thinking of the events or changing the thoughts work instead?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rail Tracer View Post
    What about social anxiety? I think with many anxiety and phobias, it doesn't just go away with more interaction. Sometimes, interaction may even exasperate it.

    Would changing the thinking of the events or changing the thoughts work instead?
    That's about the limit of what I know. If it's more complex than basic shyness anxiety then i don't know. Best to see a professional.

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    Quote Originally Posted by highlander View Post
    It's basically fear. The more time you spend out there with other people and talking/interacting with them, the more it dissipates. I think you can do little steps at a time. Also, once you start talking it's easier to talk more, so interjecting early in a conversation is always good.
    This is true if the actual act of talking to people is at the core of the anxiety. If the root is something else that is being misdirected into new social situations, then lots of interacting won't help. If it is a self-esteem issue because of an emotionally abusive parent, then continued interaction doesn't help as much as addressing that core issue.

    Anxiety can be a difficult issue to address, but I have found it helps to put all of your energy into overcoming one anxiety at a time, rather than trying to take it all on at once. There are also some simple things like deep breathing that has a helpful physiological effect.
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    Social Anxiety is a pathological condition pertaining to consistent sets of behaviour and responses - fear, anxiety and discomfort - deep inset into an individuals psyche, due to negative past experiences, and the triggering of which is caused by social situations and interactions. Since it has become ingrained, it is usually extremely hard to get rid of, and doesn't simply go away without proper help to correct it.

    Shyness is insecurity and general uncertainty surrounding interaction with people, similar to social anxiety. It is usually down to lack of confidence and a sensitivity to rejection, and is quite often simply due to personality traits (genes or observation of parents behaviour). Most shy children loose it because of repeated interactions - so the brain becomes accustomed - and some keep the traits through to adulthood (usually milder), but others yet keep it and they sometimes become avoidant, then the condition is developed as the brain becomes wired to automatically trigger those feelings of anxiety due to the number of negative associations with social situations; then SA is "coded" into the brain. One difference is that SA is akin to/a form of phobia and is irrational, whereas shyness is quite natural and a rational construct (especially with children).

    And being an introvert has nothing to do with either, no matter which definition you take, although that's not what most people would have you believe. Introversion produces an outward behaviour that is superficially similar to the above, but the actual causation is very different. A popular definition is an individual who is most predominantly concerned what is going on inside their own head rather than with external reality. That usually makes them quieter and less bothered about interacting with others, yes, but of course that doesn't make them the same thing. A shy or socially anxious person is usually quiet out of fear and apprehension, rather than purely about interest with themselves more than their environment. Of course, they aren't mutually exclusive, so one can be shy/have SA and be an introvert or an extrovert, and there are many introverts that aren't shy etc. Another definition is where one gets energy from; introverts from themselves, whereas interaction/their environment saps it. Like the previous definition, it often creates similar outward behaviour, but that doesn't make them shy or socially anxious.

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    Do some yoga, preferably in a class. Really, it can change your relationship with anxiety. I didn't think it was possible, but it works, with no side effects.
    In the mean time, try this to get your feet wet:

    http://www.kundaliniyoga.org/pranayam.html

    Good luck!

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