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    lifehacker: How Introverts and Extroverts Can Peacefully Coexist

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    Put another way: well-rested introverts can (theoretically) handle large, intense social situations just fine if they've had time to recharge. Similarly, if an extrovert has had plenty of time to be around people and find that stimulation they crave, staying home alone isn't going to feel as crippling as if you ask them to do so on Friday night after they've been cooped up in an office all week.

    It's also helpful to think of introversion and extroversion as being somewhat similar to being right or left handed. Most of us will be one or the other, but writing with your right hand doesn't render your left hand inert. Similarly, an extroverted person can still do things that aren't typically associated with extroversion. Meanwhile, introverts can learn to adapt to more extroverted scenarios, even if it might not come as naturally.

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    Nothing we don't already know or think about, but, hey, there are some interesting comments:
    Eventually this just becomes a basic "learn when to say no" thing. (Funny how a lot of introvert/extrovert problems just become regular problems, huh?)
    Ever since I was told in the comments section of a "Introvert & Extroverts ARE DIFFERENT AHHHHHH!" article that I was a terrible person who would "die happy and oblivious" because I personally, as an extrovert, didn't relate to the introvert's approach to life, I have been equally terrified and excited by such articles...

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    You know, I got to thinking something about this when I had a conversation with a friend about how blunt and honest Germans tend to be in comparison to other cultures.. and I thought, "If blunt honesty were more the norm instead of perceived as potentially rude in social situations, would we be more understanding of this particular tug-of-war issue between E's and I's?"
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    The realization of balance and rejection of categorical thinking is the way to wisdom

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    There are very fare chances to coexist Introverts and Extroverts, It is possible!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    You know, I got to thinking something about this when I had a conversation with a friend about how blunt and honest Germans tend to be in comparison to other cultures.. and I thought, "If blunt honesty were more the norm instead of perceived as potentially rude in social situations, would we be more understanding of this particular tug-of-war issue between E's and I's?"
    Probably not. I'm an introvert who is honest and blunt. Or maybe I'm really an Ne-dom...

    I always thought it was funny how some extroverts were just super-energy draining to me. Just being in the same room would tire me out really fast. But I know introverts that can do that, too when they're switched "on".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Redbone View Post
    Probably not. I'm an introvert who is honest and blunt. Or maybe I'm really an Ne-dom...

    I always thought it was funny how some extroverts were just super-energy draining to me. Just being in the same room would tire me out really fast. But I know introverts that can do that, too when they're switched "on".
    Similarly, it is immensely draining to hang out with more intense introverts. I'm all for boring, chill times.. but dealing with true and raw introversion? It makes me feel like the candles just got blown out by a creepy gust of wind. And the shutters are creaking upstairs. And it reminds me of that time Spartacus was a real jerk to Mira for no reason. Oh, and I'm fat and probably lazy. I also didn't do my laundry so I probably won't have any socks tomorrow. And no one cares about what I have to say.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    Similarly, it is immensely draining to hang out with more intense introverts. I'm all for boring, chill times.. but dealing with true and raw introversion? It makes me feel like the candles just got blown out by a creepy gust of wind. And the shutters are creaking upstairs. And it reminds me of that time Spartacus was a real jerk to Mira for no reason. Oh, and I'm fat and probably lazy. I also didn't do my laundry so I probably won't have any socks tomorrow. And no one cares about what I have to say.
    haha...I loved this!

    a balance is nice. I don't like being with very strong introverts. I can really "blah, blah, blah" when I'm excited and into things and you need to be able to hold your own when I get into that mode. And it's all over the place, too. So it can get boring for me if the conversation doesn't resemble a fast-paced racquetball game. It's not always like this though.

    I wonder at people's ability to gauge their introversion/extroversion. Or that of others. I thought my ex was extroverted because he "likes people". Turns out he's an an introvert (ISFJ). My sister types herself as an INTJ...no way. Poster-child Te-dom but she typed herself as an introvert because she doesn't like people. It's probably another reason why MBTI can't really fit people in neat boxes. The way tests are put together, it gets measured on a scale of like/dislike, gain energy/lose energy from socializing and that's not a complete picture at all.

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    Peacefuly co-exist? But the alternative is fun.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Redbone View Post
    haha...I loved this!

    a balance is nice. I don't like being with very strong introverts. I can really "blah, blah, blah" when I'm excited and into things and you need to be able to hold your own when I get into that mode. And it's all over the place, too. So it can get boring for me if the conversation doesn't resemble a fast-paced racquetball game. It's not always like this though.

    I wonder at people's ability to gauge their introversion/extroversion. Or that of others. I thought my ex was extroverted because he "likes people". Turns out he's an an introvert (ISFJ). My sister types herself as an INTJ...no way. Poster-child Te-dom but she typed herself as an introvert because she doesn't like people. It's probably another reason why MBTI can't really fit people in neat boxes. The way tests are put together, it gets measured on a scale of like/dislike, gain energy/lose energy from socializing and that's not a complete picture at all.
    I think Vagrant, Black cat, and Magic have all posted some really awesome and interesting threads on here about how to weed out these stereotypical concepts. There is no way to create a quiz that determines the complexities of E and I.. More less S and N and the others. Even T vs F is a fairly hard thing to determine in others. It requires careful, active analysis, and even then there is a margin for error. I think that's why the stereotypes exist. They are much more convenient. "Energy from socializing" is only half the picture.. It is a chunk of it, but not the entirety. It's an indicator, like a piece of evidence vs the entire crime scene. But.. I'd say since Energy from socializing is more like the fingerprint on the gun, it's really easy to jump to the conclusion based on that, regardless of that wayward hair under the desk.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    I think Vagrant, Black cat, and Magic have all posted some really awesome and interesting threads on here about how to weed out these stereotypical concepts. There is no way to create a quiz that determines the complexities of E and I.. More less S and N and the others. Even T vs F is a fairly hard thing to determine in others. It requires careful, active analysis, and even then there is a margin for error. I think that's why the stereotypes exist. They are much more convenient. "Energy from socializing" is only half the picture.. It is a chunk of it, but not the entirety. It's an indicator, like a piece of evidence vs the entire crime scene. But.. I'd say since Energy from socializing is more like the fingerprint on the gun, it's really easy to jump to the conclusion based on that, regardless of that wayward hair under the desk.
    I was reading a very good philosophy book today called Happiness is Overrated which did not explicitly mention introversion vs. extroversion but did mention a study about happiness being contingent upon either strong belief/experience of control over your fate, which was correlated with introspection, creativity and artistry, and sociability/connectedness and it found that these two things are important but if one is strong or strengthened the other is less important or has a correlated diminishing need of/for.

    It sounded like what has been conceptualised as introversion and extroversion even though the words were not used.

    Its not a simple thing you know because if you're going to be stereotypical about it there's plenty of introverts who occasionally engage in extrovert behaviour, perhaps its mandated by work, or extroverts who behave like introverts, I can be really bookish sometimes and people keep tell me its an introvert trait.

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