Ene
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For discussion, let's say that it's very serious, as in an immediate family member being very sick with a limited time remaining.
And, the isolation is long-term, maybe a few weeks to several months.
Javo, this sounds like a truly serious issue. I'd say, yes, give him or her some space but at the same time, don't back away completely. When your friend does lift his/her head and is ready to come out of the whole they've buried themselves in then they are going to want someone trustworthy. It's mostly a waiting game. No matter who it is, or how isolated they want to be, it still helps to know that someone actually does care about you without wanting any kind of gratification in return. Also, it depends on the kind of person it is. Not all introverts are created equal. For example, I do have to deal with grief alone but if after six months a person still won't come out of the house and is suicidal, then yeah, they need intervention of some sort. When my dad was dying of cancer [2011], I wanted to spend every moment I could with him so my friends and social connections had to take a backseat. Funny thing, though, most understood. When a member of a close family goes through a crisis, it's not just that one person, it's the whole family. Cancer [and other diseases like it] are traumatic both to the one fighting it and to the family and it isn't always easy to know the right thing to do or say. Cards help [sent via the snail mail]. Doing practical things like bringing groceries over or bringing a cooked meal over or if they have kids, offering to watch them for a few hours or walking their dog or...things that say "I'm there for you, but you don't have to pour out your guts to me if you don't want to." These things speak volumes, at least to me they do.