Not that the mother's approach wasn't TERRIBLE AND WRONG AND DAMAGING, and not that it didn't work, but the part where the child just seemingly looked all confused as if her pain wasn't justified was what got to me.
There are a few ways to 'learn' that a given pain isn't 'justified.' One is to deny the problem in a pollyanna sort of way, an optimism bordering on naivete. My preferred approach is to to learn through experience that, oh, getting a lil' scrape isn't so bad--and that's a tactic that people use to get over fear and anxiety in general.
I think that terminology has helped me in some ways, but not in others.This is a very good point. It's how we naturally make sense of the world. Even having words at all is a kind of 'labeling'.
The bolded is exactly what I was trying to get at! It's an issue that's hardly ever addressed. In regard to mental illness especially, maybe everyone is 'screwed up' in some way. Labeling something with a name helps people understand it, but once the problem is spotted as real, maybe it's better to just let go of the labeling altogether and start looking at how we can help you as a person.
Shit's obviously all fucked up when, say, you're burning your candle at both ends for weeks without feeling the least bit tired and feeling as though you don't need sleep, then, blammo, crash. That obviously isn't natural. That's a problem that kinda needs fixed, and labels help.
But to this day, I wind up wondering whether a few days' worth of a glum mood is a depressive episode, or if moments of grandeur are a manic phase. When the experience is so internal and personal, at times the terms actually seem to confuse our understanding of the world and ourselves.
I'd love more natural ways to deal with it all. For the most part, I've been sticking with medications that have been around for decades--that have some history behind them and so their side effects are more well-known. (Those older medications happen to work for me, thank God.)That's what I keep wondering too. Personally I don't think medication is the right approach. I think it helps, but there must be better, more natural ways to achieve long-term effects.
Though I'm not an expert on the subject, I know some things. To throw a thought out there--one thing that most people don't realize is that, say, typical antidepressants just serve to fix existing emitters and receptors; that typically, they won't do a damn thing for 'normies.'
One natural way to deal with it is psychotherapy, which is universally recommended alongside medication.
I'll also throw in the following--given my experiences, I realize why people might get themselves into situations where they're hooked on illegal or dangerous drugs.