Mole
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The care of our psyche starts from our earliest age.
As we pass through the narcissistic stage of development, we need to be loved unconditionally to survive.
If we are not loved unconditionally at this age, we are faced with the prospect of knowing that the one person our life depends on does not love us unconditionally. So we take this unmet narcissistic need into adulthood, with a double whammy, we are constantly looking for narcissistic supply, and at the same time we deny the origin of our damaged psyche, because knowing this was too much for us bear at such an early age.
And to our surprise we find the internet and social media are full of us looking for narcissistic supply, and with no idea why we are so needy.
But as adults we can start to realise the worst has happened and we weren't loved unconditionally when we needed it.
We can also start to realise we are now adults and don't need to be loved unconditionally in order to survive.
And we can also start to realise we are damaged adults, and without coming to understand our own damage, we are likely to pass it on to our own children.
This is the beginning of the care of our psyche - we have survived, though damaged, and with continual care our psyche and our children can begin to thrive.
As we pass through the narcissistic stage of development, we need to be loved unconditionally to survive.
If we are not loved unconditionally at this age, we are faced with the prospect of knowing that the one person our life depends on does not love us unconditionally. So we take this unmet narcissistic need into adulthood, with a double whammy, we are constantly looking for narcissistic supply, and at the same time we deny the origin of our damaged psyche, because knowing this was too much for us bear at such an early age.
And to our surprise we find the internet and social media are full of us looking for narcissistic supply, and with no idea why we are so needy.
But as adults we can start to realise the worst has happened and we weren't loved unconditionally when we needed it.
We can also start to realise we are now adults and don't need to be loved unconditionally in order to survive.
And we can also start to realise we are damaged adults, and without coming to understand our own damage, we are likely to pass it on to our own children.
This is the beginning of the care of our psyche - we have survived, though damaged, and with continual care our psyche and our children can begin to thrive.