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What makes people "super-expose" their lives on social networks?

Lark

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I just got back from doing what the title of this thread is, or at least telling people I'd finished a book I was reading.
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Bytches. :hi:
 
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It sounds like the human condition. They just want to be seen and remembered, even if it means losing their shame.
 

Mole

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Desperate need for attention they never got from Momsie or Dadsie. :pacifier:

Actually seeking attention on the internet is an improvement than just suffering the lack of attention as children.

When we suffered the lack of attention as children, and without therapy or the internet, we were more likely to pass on the lack of attention to our own children.

But finding surrogate attention on the internet, we are more likely to improve our own child rearing practice.
 
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What caused you to create this thread?


Likely similar sentiment.
 

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I see a lot of people having the need of:

- Saying every little thing that happens in their lives on FB;
- Sharing every mellow picture with a "romantic" quote and tag their bf/gf;
- Posting photos of every little thing of their day to day lives;
- Expressing opinions that doesn't even matter;

Attention-whoring? Ego-feeding? The need of feeling important (the 15 minutes of fame)? What kind of psychological need causes this?

I've been guilty to a certain degree of this.
I see something I think is funny I HAVE to show everyone. I take a picture of something cool and want everyone to see it. It was like a few months I was like that one winter. Then spring hit and I was out of the house more and rarely went on facebook and didn't care anymore.

So.....
BOREDOM!!!!
And the jokes were mostly the whole "wow, this is really funny. Hey I know Zach would find this funny."

As far as the extreme cases I haven't given them much thought. Maybe they constantly need validation from others. Like the people who parade their significant other's around so all the world will know they're spoken for.
 

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read up on narcism, what you're talking about is NOT the same thing.

I rarely update my status on face book and usually to post a link i found interesting, and 90% of my FB friends posts annoying political shit, and the other 10% post mostivational posters. maybe 1% post about their lives.
 

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read up on narcism, what you're talking about is NOT the same thing.

I rarely update my status on face book and usually to post a link i found interesting, and 90% of my FB friends posts annoying political shit, and the other 10% post mostivational posters. maybe 1% post about their lives.

What kind of friends do you have? most of mine post pictures of their lives.
 

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What kind of friends do you have? most of mine post pictures of their lives.

posting pictures, oh my god, how narcissitic of them, people sharing pictures of their family HAS NOT been happening since the invention of the camera. FB is kind of like just a giant public wallet for parents in a lot of ways
 

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its not narcissm, people have the desire to relate to others and share things that interest them. it's not them going OMG I'm so great everyone will love me, it's more of maybe if i post something people will find it funny, or relate to it on some level.
 

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But life is meant to be shared with one another in person.

When I was on facebook a lot, I found that my focus became pictures. Getting a good picture. The enjoyment of the moment of whatever I was doing, alone or with family, was completely usurped by wondering how this great picture would be viewed by my friends and others....It went beyond mere sharing into self-indulgence. There is just a fine line between connecting with others and prostelytizing oneself....

Perhaps many don't fall prey to this. But social media sites are prime conduits for those who do. Just like casinos pull in gamblers.

I also meant narcissism in more general terms regarding our society. One cannot see popular media without being inundated with the reality of that.
 

jixmixfix

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posting pictures, oh my god, how narcissitic of them, people sharing pictures of their family HAS NOT been happening since the invention of the camera. FB is kind of like just a giant public wallet for parents in a lot of ways

To me it depends on the extent of what you're doing if you're sharing and posting every detail of your life then it becomes a problem. Facebook in of itself is pretty impersonal it's not like you have family that came over and you're sharing pictures you had. There is no sense of belonging really just people advertising themselves to the public.
 

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To me it depends on the extent of what you're doing if you're sharing and posting every detail of your life then it becomes a problem. Facebook in of itself is pretty impersonal it's not like you have family that came over and you're sharing pictures you had. There is no sense of belonging really just people advertising themselves to the public.

unless your friends on fb with your family and rl friends like a lot of people i know.its a lot less anonymous than here
 

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its not narcissm, people have the desire to relate to others and share things that interest them. it's not them going OMG I'm so great everyone will love me, it's more of maybe if i post something people will find it funny, or relate to it on some level.

It's just one of those bastardized words that everyone uses. I don't think ppl really mean to say that others have this horrible mental illness. Though wiki (i know great source) states that it's generally used in a variety of ways (doesn't neccesarily have to be DSM material).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism
 

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But life is meant to be shared with one another in person.

It is sharing life directly, "Hey, look at this cool picture I took" it isn't really self indulgence either, you want others to share and experience through your photo. I know where you are coming from, I just think it is a balance between two worlds.
 
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