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What makes people "super-expose" their lives on social networks?

Laurie

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When I remember to log in Facebook is about connecting. If I add you I am willing to interact with you. I'm not into motivational posters or any of that, it's about interacting with friends.

Wouldn't it make more sense to have people on facebook you don't get to see in real life? That way you can interact online even if you live far apart.
 

jixmixfix

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But life is meant to be shared with one another in person.

When I was on facebook a lot, I found that my focus became pictures. Getting a good picture. The enjoyment of the moment of whatever I was doing, alone or with family, was completely usurped by wondering how this great picture would be viewed by my friends and others....It went beyond mere sharing into self-indulgence. There is just a fine line between connecting with others and prostelytizing oneself....

Perhaps many don't fall prey to this. But social media sites are prime conduits for those who do. Just like casinos pull in gamblers.

I also meant narcissism in more general terms regarding our society. One cannot see popular media without being inundated with the reality of that.

How bout if I said "life was meant to be exposed with other people" would you think of it the same way?
 
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Many people just want to get their stories out there. They need an outlet and, sometimes, validation.

Marketing can be neat, but social networking for marketing sucks--maintaining an "online image" or "live tweeting" or managing a damned LinkedIn account? :sick:

There's also a lot of "I" and "me" in Facebook status updates. C'mon now; share ideas, wisdom, aphorisms, good stories, interesting stuff--things that are relevant to all of us.
Oh shit that's the worst! I hate email notifications! I get a ridiculous amount of email as it is. I can't deal with all that.
This might work: https://www.facebook.com/settings?tab=notifications&view

Under "All Notifications," click the Edit button next to items that have an email icon next to them, uncheck them, and, blammo; no more emails!
:yay:
 

Lady_X

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Many people just want to get their stories out there. They need an outlet and, sometimes, validation.

Marketing can be neat, but social networking for marketing sucks--maintaining an "online image" or "live tweeting" or managing a damned LinkedIn account? :sick:

There's also a lot of "I" and "me" in Facebook status updates. C'mon now; share ideas, wisdom, aphorisms, good stories, interesting stuff--things that are relevant to all of us.

This might work: https://www.facebook.com/settings?tab=notifications&view

Under "All Notifications," click the Edit button next to items that have an email icon next to them, uncheck them, and, blammo; no more emails!
:yay:
haha thanks...but no i don't get email notifications from facebook. i just get the beeping and lil red numbers on my phone when close friends or family post.

i could turn it off i suppose...i may...sometimes i like it tho. just not 15 in a row. it makes me crazy.
 

Stanton Moore

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I had a FB account, but deleted it because I had a lot of pseudo-friends, people I was in middle school with, including this girl who said some terrible shit to me when I was 10 or something, and to be honest, I don't need anything that encourages me or anyone I communicate with, to be even more shallow than is natural for a middle class American, which is, unfortunately, already very shallow indeed.
I prefer real, living people and animals, that do what real-embodied souls doooo.
 

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Don't have a FB account, don't plan to ever have one. The same with all social media with the exceptions of Linkedin and Twitter. Twitter is purely for reading and comic relief, never posting. Linkedin is only for professional contacts. I don't try to analyze why people use them, if it's sad because people don't communicate in person, if it's an addiction or a mental issue. If these people weren't using FB they would use something else and probably will in the future. The people who make their life an open book will do it regardless of the method.
 

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Don't have a FB account, don't plan to ever have one.

Academics all use FB professionally now, for updates about conferences, new research, guest speakers, etc., and I wonder if that's going to spread to other professions. The 60-something profs are on there and everything. I'm not sure if it's because our workspaces are much more separate than other workspaces, and so we have to figure out how to keep a departmental/disciplinary community together, or if we're just nerds who are catching the electronic wave early on-ish and soon everyone will be using it professionally.
 

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Academics all use FB professionally now, for updates about conferences, new research, guest speakers, etc., and I wonder if that's going to spread to other professions. The 60-something profs are on there and everything. I'm not sure if it's because our workspaces are much more separate than other workspaces, and so we have to figure out how to keep a departmental/disciplinary community together, or if we're just nerds who are catching the electronic wave early on-ish and soon everyone will be using it professionally.
Isn't that why the internet was invented and has been used in this manner since the 70's? :D
 

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MAD

Isn't that why the internet was invented and has been used in this manner since the 70's? :D

The internet was invented by the USA military to successfully fight a nuclear war.

The military designed the internet to be redundant in the event of a first strike by the Soviet Union, so that the USA would be able to strike back.

And it worked. Mutually Assured Destruction (MAD) prevented nuclear war.
 

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The internet was invented by the USA military to successfully fight a nuclear war.

The military designed the internet to be redundant in the event of a first strike by the Soviet Union, so that the USA would be able to strike back.

And it worked. Mutually Assured Destruction (MAD) prevented nuclear war.
I'm sure they were inventing redundant networks for this purpose but I don't see how connecting UCLA to Stanford which is what basically turned into the internet would help with any kind of nuclear war.
 

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I'm sure they were inventing redundant networks for this purpose but I don't see how connecting UCLA to Stanford which is what basically turned into the internet would help with any kind of nuclear war.

Sure, first the military invented the internet to create multiple redundant command and control pathways in the event of a first strike by the Soviet Union.

And then the scientists saw how useful this would be to communicate across the scientific world.

And then business saw how useful the internet would be to communicate across the globe.

And here we are, sprinkles, you and I, communicating across the globe, thanks to the USA military.
 

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Sure, first the military invented the internet to create multiple redundant command and control pathways in the event of a first strike by the Soviet Union.

And then the scientists saw how useful this would be to communicate across the scientific world.

And then business saw how useful the internet would be to communicate across the globe.

And here we are, sprinkles, you and I, communicating across the globe, thanks to the USA military.

They created it because powerful digital research computers were few and far between and they wanted a way to access them without having to go to its location. This has the convenient side effect of being a redundant network, but that wasn't the initial purpose.

This was for military research purposes. Yes it very much was. It was not for military command purposes, though. It was a way to access computers, not protect the network or send launch commands or anything like that.

Maybe they had intended to use it for that one day, I don't know, but this would not have been a sufficient network to accomplish that. So they made MILnet in 1983.
 

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A combination of histrionic and narcissistic tendencies..

I sense a little bit of oneupmanship, like having one's life played out on a movie reel broadcasted for a few minutes worth of meaningless fame.

Really, this kind of behavior perpetuates false intimacy and further alienates people from making true connections IRL, and takes away from the essence of human contact through an impersonal medium behind a computer screen. They call it cyber-reality for a reason (the desire to connect, to delude oneself into grandiosity, to create fantasies which may or may not be real).
 

Mole

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Social Therapy

What makes people "super-expose" their lives on social networks?

It is a form of social therapy.

At first therapy, such as psycho-analysis, was for the wealthy elite but the internet makes therapy available to all.

Of course we imitiate the wealthy elite when and where we can, and now we imitiate them with the therapeutic society.

In fact the social media socialise therapy. We are now all therapy socialists. The Revolution we have discovered will not be on TV, but the Revolution is being held on the internet.

And interestingly the Revolution is not National Socialism but International Socialism in the global village.

So comrades, let us all join hands and listen to the stories of the everyday pain, suffering and joy each one of us has to tell.
 
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