I just want to comment. Didn't watch the video and don't really want to.
As long as we aren't talking about material things, but giving something emotionally to connect with another, then I agree.2. Happy people are givers. We share something that we have.
I don't know if it's fair to categorize all unhappy thinkers as personalizing things. I guess if you want to say that negative thinkers tend to set themselves up for unhappiness, yeah sure. But you can have an unhappy thinker that doesn't personalize things that is due to that 10%. Being poor and not being able to take care of your physical needs, for instance, is one example.3. Happy people think differently than unhappy people. Unhappy thinkers explain outcomes based on something they lack in themselves (they personalize things). Then they extend this one event pervasively – that everything is bad. Then they feel like what just happened is permanent - that things will always be that way. 90% of our thinking patterns are the same from one day to the next. The way to break out of this is to observe and have focused attention on how we are thinking and follow that by action – to change those negative thought patterns.
Maybe. But fear is there to protect us. There's definitely something to be said about conquering your fears as a person, but that shit is a painful dissociative process; it is. The personal self - one must dissociative from themselves, as they are, if they want to associate themselves into something else. I know it sounds silly for me to say it this way, but if you don't know what I'm saying, then you probably don't understand what he means by this.4. Happy people have goals. We need to be pushing ourselves to the next thing that makes us uncomfortable. Fear is one of the most damaging thought patterns. He said that conquering our fears is very important.
This sounds ignorant. Because the word faith can include an assumption, people that have faith are sometimes greatly in the wrong and do harm because of it. But people that know however, know something deeper about life, something substantial, that's more than a word can convey. And they don't require that you understand, nor will they use it against you or to rationalize/categorize you or tell you how to live. But they can use it to improve the overall well-being of the world around them. And they don't have faith. They have something else.5. Happy people have faith. People that have a strong spiritual orientation that give them meaning and purpose are happier. One study shows a 7-year difference in life span from this one thing.
I hope he's talking about the later. But given that he doesn't recognize the distinction, it sounds like he's selling religion to people through statistics. And I don't think we need to get into the epistemological problems of statistical correlations.
Isn't such a question a bit ironic? If I said my well-being improves by not recognizing the idea of being happy or unhappy (because it also focuses my thought on ideas of "I" instead of "everything"), do you think you would have any idea what I meant?Thoughts on this? On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you?