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    Quote Originally Posted by SpankyMcFly View Post
    I'm yelled & cursed at (in my face) and sometimes physically threated on the daily at work (the nature of my job). This stuff just rolls off 98% of the time as I stare blankly at them and calmly perform my duties. Which sometimes is it's own juicy reward, watching them have a nuclear melt down due to their inability to shift my emotional state or control theirs.
    Quite a job you have!
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    Quote Originally Posted by MyCupOfTea View Post
    Quite a job you have!
    "Nesecity is the father of invention.". It' amazing how we adapt/cope : . BTW it's not my coworkers that are like that. Most of my coworkets are moderately to high 'rated' assholes, however, hehe. It usually takes me 2-3 hours to decompress after work. Music helps lots.
    "The most merciful thing in the world, I think, is the inability of the human mind to correlate all its contents... Some day the piecing together of dissociated knowledge will open up such terrifying vistas of reality, and of our frightful position therein, that we shall either go mad from the revelation or flee from the light into the peace and safety of a new Dark Age. " - H.P. Lovecraft

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    It really depends on the person, but I don't think I've cried while or after being yelled at since I was in like elementary school. Sometimes I'll just stare at them and not say anything and keep my words limited, other times I'll fight back.

    Most of the time I'll probably roll my eyes or argue with them but just like ten decibels quieter.

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    I just keep quiet and stare at them until they wind down before responding. It usually works pretty well and it gives me time to fully understand what they're upset about.
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    It's been a while since I've been yelled at, and yelled at by a sane person. I really cannot remember the last time I was yelled at outside of childhood and jobs involving customer service.

    If someone sane yelled at my today, I would be genuinely shocked. I don't conduct myself in ways that would entail being yelled at, and I don't work in an environment where yelling would be considered acceptable behaviour.

    Anyway, remembering my customer service days, it's often immediately obvious that the yeller is having a bad day/week/life. If you're yelling and I have to stop and assess whether you have a legitimate reason to be yelling, then you do not have a legitimate reason, and yelling without reason lacks dignity so I go into calm and receptive mode. I will try and get the yeller to calm down, mainly by not responding with more noise. Instinctively, I feel a need to balance the situation, so I react by trying to calm the situation, figure out what they want, and send them away in a subdued state. In my experience, yellers are often in some kind of distress, usually mild but sometimes acute.

    On the other hand, if the yeller is one of those entitled, conceited, self-involved brats who yell because they never acquired proper manners, then I do the above, but I retract warmth and generosity and turn up the infuriatingly polite, robotic, by-the-book shtick.

    If the yeller is a friend and they're trolling me, then I yell right back. If I'm in fighting trim shape, I yell out something that will embarrass them.

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    why would someone yell at me?

    ~Curls up into a ball and rolls away into the darkness, never to be seen again.~
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    If it's from out of nowhere and it's not warranted, I stay detached, say something like "Whoa, whoa, okay", and start trying to talk them down. Figuring out what exactly they're talking about, and how to convince them they're wrong.

    If I saw it coming and it's not warranted, I'll probably still try to talk them down, but I will also have had some time to get angry about the situation, so it might be harder to detach.

    If it's from out of nowhere and it's warranted, I'll feel shitty, let them finish yelling, and try to figure out the best way to react apologetically.

    If I saw it coming and it's warranted, I'll get upset, since I'll probably have been wallowing in guilt for a while before then. I might even cry later.
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    It depends.

    I tend to be kinda reactive so I'll probably yell back because I'd be startled and angry.

    I have walked away, started laughing, or asked if they were finished when someone was yelling, too. Outside of my ex and my roommate while we were dating, haven't had a lot of yelling come my way.

    I actually get yelled at or spoken to in a nasty manner quite a bit on my job. Usually right when I pick up the phone, "blah, blah, blah...this is so and so" and WHAM! I'm often the last person on the end of a series of run-arounds or don't know who else to call and they're pretty pissed off by that point. I don't take it personally, empathize with their frustration and tell them I'll do my best to help them out. I don't really feel "yelled at" in those situations, just a kind of witness to frustration, so I guess it doesn't count.

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    Hearing about people getting yelled at on the job, I'm now very curious about what this actually looks and sounds like. Are we talking Al Pacino yelling?

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    Depends.
    If it's an argument or I am in a particularly polemic mood I will yell back or tell them to chill down. Otherwise, I will just ignore them.

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