It would seem to me, that every time someone has a problem with me, it doesn't matter whether their arguments hold any merit or not. The fact of the matter is, they have a problem with me. And, because that problem is so big, the goal is to make peace, by having myself compromise with that person.
Then someone can have a problem with me, and regardless of whether their argument has merit or not, if I react back, other people actually sympathize with the person who had a problem to begin with. Despite my lack of participation initially.
But, If I have a problem with someone. It seems petty, unjustified, and there is a logical reason for it. Something I can do on my end, some responsibility I have to avoid or correct the problem.
I just...don't understand how the fuck this is all supposed to work?
Insight or ideas?