If it's the right time of year, I just leave civilization and go walking into the woods / backtrails.
In colder weather, I can just get in the car and drive with music blasting.
Otherwise I'm stuck escaping in my head, a la Sam Lowry.
"Hey Capa -- We're only stardust." ~ "Sunshine"
“Pleasure to me is wonder—the unexplored, the unexpected, the thing that is hidden and the changeless thing that lurks behind superficial mutability. To trace the remote in the immediate; the eternal in the ephemeral; the past in the present; the infinite in the finite; these are to me the springs of delight and beauty.” ~ H.P. Lovecraft
What I meant by that wasn't 'let yourself go crazy', but more like, quit trying to battle reality with your feelings. Just accept that bad things might be happening but they aren't the end of the world.
So rather than wrecking yourself, you say: "things are bad, & that's that for now." & then you watch while life goes on.
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"Man is free, but his freedom ceases when he has no faith in it."
Life is droll if you don't practice good self-care. Do three deliberate things during the week to treat yourself. Works for me. I pick from the following: nap, do bikram yoga, call a good friend and ask if they will listen, read in the bathtub, write out my frustrations, and go get my hair cut and blow dried so I look nice on the outside (even if I am scowling on the inside). These help me soak in some me-time and get me snapped back to take on life.
p.s. Also: remind yourself that you are a free bird, free to do anything you want
Last edited by Neutralpov; 01-26-2012 at 11:00 AM.
Reason: Also: remind yourself that you are free, free to do anything you want
Hmm, I probably sleep, although its not a good idea to sleep all the time or use that as a copeing mechanism because it could throw off your sleep cycle. Although however you want to call it resting and relaxing are the key, so you're not feeling overtaxed anymore. Its that taxing of your inner resources, whatever causes it, that's the issue.
For a while I thought sleep was about Jung's idea of the unconscious finding remedies and rectifying crisis people mightnt even know they were experiencing but now I think its simpler than that. Although a good dream never did anyone any harm. Even if you have a nightmare its a relief to wake up and realise it wasnt real.
I dont believe in Freud's idea that people have a finite amount of emotional resources to be spent wisely or unwisely squandered, I agree with Fromm's criticism of it that its derivative of economic philosophies rather than objective reality.
Although I also agree with Fromm's idea that a lot of people are disordered and dont know it, that the economy, popular culture, a lot of everyday things place demands on people which can be torturous because they're not in keeping with peoples true nature.
Besides this, I like to take long walks alone, I like to find places to read and good books which I can get entirely absorbed in, I like to make contact with friends and hear from friends online or in person.
NB Kant said that when life made you weary there was always hope, sleep and laughter to help.
Buy some gorgeous shoes
Dance around the room like a maniac
Watch an hilarious comedy
Get out in nature
Ravage a man (preferably with his consent)
“I made you take time to look at what I saw and when you took time to really notice my flower, you hung all your associations with flowers on my flower and you write about my flower as if I think and see what you think and see—and I don't.”
― Georgia O'Keeffe