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    Default Regret vs. remorse

    Is there a difference between remorse and regret?

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    Maybe one is when you wished you wouldn't have done something and feel bad about it.... and the other is when you feel bad about what you did but still would have done the same thing??? I made those up and don't know if they apply and if they do which is which.

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    From my understanding remorse implies a feeling of guilt/wrongdoing whereas regret doesn't (necessarily).

    (e.g. you might feel regret about taking the wrong college course and remorse about kicking the neighbour's cat, or something)

    Also I think remorse might be a subcategory of regret. I don't think you would feel remorse without regret, but you could definitely feel regret without remorse.
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    I agree with Randomnity's interpretation. I see remorse as having some ethical underpinnings. Like you did something that worthy of feeling shame. You did something that harmed someone physically or emotionally. Regret to me doesn't have the same ethical issue. Its more a case that you made a decision that personally didn't suit you as well but there was nothing wrong with that decision from a purely ethical standpoint. For example, I regret taking job A over job B but I don't feel remorse about it. I just happened to find that job B would have personally suited me better than job A.
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    Hmm, maybe Randomnity right, I hadn't ever thought of it. The word remorse gives me the the feeling something not yet internally resolved, while regret is something unadressable. But that may just be purely internal associations (remorse->morose, regret->forget).

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    Regret -> You wish you would have done something you didn't.

    Remorse -> You wish you wouldn't have done something you did.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SuchIrony View Post
    I agree with Randomnity's interpretation. I see remorse as having some ethical underpinnings. Like you did something that worthy of feeling shame.
    Yes. To me, regret involves little if any emotion. It is simply the recognition that one made a poor choice, which could be based on purely objective grounds. Remorse suggests one feels bad about it, hence the ethical or moral implications.
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    without looking up the definitions and just going off the common meaning i would attach i would say
    remorse - feeling it was wrong
    regret- thinking it was wrong

    but i am entirely prepared to be wrong, lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    Yes. To me, regret involves little if any emotion. It is simply the recognition that one made a poor choice, which could be based on purely objective grounds. Remorse suggests one feels bad about it, hence the ethical or moral implications.
    Very interesting question and responses. To me, regret can be a deeply felt emotion, so when I tell someone I regret something, I feel like I'm sharing how I feel emotionally about it, but if its common for others to not associate emotion with regret, thats a pretty big communication gap (I want others to know its something I feel, not an intellectual conclusion) - perhaps I am using regret when I should be using remorse, but regret can be either a verb or a noun and remorse can only be used as a noun (as far as I know) - it does not sound right to say "I really remorse not having done that".
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    After thinking about this more, I can see where regret might include emotion, but at most emotion directed at oneself. This might be disappointment in oneself, frustration, even wistfulness over an opportunity lost through a bad decision.

    Remorse seems much more externally directed, and probably applies more to situations in which one's bad decision affected others rather than (just) oneself.
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