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    For me, low self-esteem reinforced by distorted perceptions/others.
    Things I have done in the past... the person I was.
    Now, I don't really hold that much shame.

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    As OrangeAppled said, for me, it's hyper self-awareness. I'm very critical of myself for the things I mess up, especially when it comes to speaking since I have an African accent and try to speak in an American accent. For the most part, I'm able to do it, but sometimes the accent breaks or I pronounce a word wrong ('order' is my most hated word ever because of this) and I get flustered, which leads me to messing up even more and I end up embarrassed and ashamed of myself.
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    Shame is a useless waste of emotion. If actions were so negative, remorse, restitution and self-forgiveness are better uses of time and energy.

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    I think because they have been judged too harshly in the past. People feel insecure and most of the time I think it's because of false comments or harsh ones, I'm not sure exactly. It's almost the same with how you view your image I think. Check this site out, I think it has a bit of similarities with weight issues and stuff. http://healthmad.com/weight-loss/weight-issues/

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    By their actions you will know them.

    There are some people who are worthless, they act in a way which makes that judgement of them valid. Once you've fufilled or discharged your obligation towards them its a done deal.
    I cannot understand how a mental health professional could say such a thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elfboy View Post
    I don't get it, why do people feel ashamed of themselves, hate themselves or feel like they somehow need to do something to validate their existence? what is the psychological root of shame and feelings of worthlessness? they don't make any sense to me.
    I think it's how people cope when life or things are not going the way they want them to. This was explained to me by a wise person I know and it made sense. The alternative reaction is to hate others. A person who is unhappy will pick one or the other, either hating themselves or hating others.

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    I've heard of people that never experience shame. I think they're called sociopaths.
    "The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things." - Rainer Maria Rilke

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    Quote Originally Posted by iwakar View Post
    I've heard of people that never experience shame. I think they're called sociopaths.
    'They ought to be ashamed of themselves '
    Expression of the post modern paradox : "For the love of god, religions are so full of shit"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    By their actions you will know them.

    There are some people who are worthless, they act in a way which makes that judgement of them valid. Once you've fufilled or discharged your obligation towards them its a done deal.
    Is this worthlessness rectifiable?
    Does not everyone have the ability to turn their lives around?
    Do you put your heart into helping the people you are obliged to, through work?
    "We knew he was someone who had a tragic flaw, that's where his greatness came from"

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    Quote Originally Posted by nebbykoo View Post
    I cannot understand how a mental health professional could say such a thing.
    Lots of ppl who study how to fix ppl's mind are drawn to that field because they have issues to begin with
    Expression of the post modern paradox : "For the love of god, religions are so full of shit"

    Theory is always superseded by Fact...
    ... In theory.

    “I’d hate to die twice. It’s so boring.”
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