Don't Be Yourself

[Glycerine]

Be yourself. This is common advice. Maybe it's because everybody is really a shining jewel deep down inside. Or maybe because it's really not worth the effort to work against yourself.

But, what I want to hear is when you're not yourself. What are those subjects that you're interested in that you've decided just creeps everybody out, or bores them? What is that thing you want to wear that your friends have expressedly told you not to? What have you changed about yourself to make life easier?

Psychology, serial killers, Nazis, my non PC joking style. It more or less weirds people out.

People have told me not to wear bright makeup (not streetwalkerish but all the makeup rules annoy me after while).

I am just very formal and private because people are always going to nag me (moreso than the average person due to my circumstances) if I go a little bit outside of the social rules.....it's exhausting.

 

[prplchknz]

i won't, thanks mr. termite sir!! actually i was looking for something else because i'm trying to figure something out. but this is good advice.

 

[Qlip]

Wow, this is an old thread. But I'm not embarrassed at all by it, what are the chances? To answer your question, young [MENTION=10714]Qlip[/MENTION], the things you ultimately have the fortitude to fake are the things that you were destined to make.

 

[Poki]

the motto should be "Be yourself, as long as yourself isn't an asshole, weirdo, or creep" or "be yourself, as long as it's exactly how I want you to be"

that's what they mean when they say "Be yourself" isn't it.

Be yourself as long as it doesn't negatively affect others.

In those cases, seperate those which it negatively affects and surround yourself with who it positively affects.


On a side note. I love to do things that screw with people's mind and assumptions. I enjoy the looks I get when I get in a 300k+ mile hooptie with faded and peeling paint, atleast I don't have to open door from back seat anymore, with all the squeeks and creeks of a old car while dressed up in slacks and nice Polo for work. When I am considered the genius at work in my group and when they ask what I am listening to and it's easy-e automobile. Walking into a nice restaurant in clothes that is dirty because when I am not working I am building things, fixing things, or helping others fix things. Walking into home depot in nice slacks a nice dress Polo shirt covered in sawdust from building a fish tank stand. When people see my handy work and then find out my job is a computer programmer. I actually get a trip out of making people do a double take....showing all sides of me...not just being one sided.

Edit: and then the next day they ask and I am listening to kenny g

 

[Evee]

Being yourself requires knowing yourself.

So instead of giving someone the advice "Be yourself", I would say the words which every ancient Greek who went to see the oracle of Delphi would read:

"Know thyself."

 

[prplchknz]

Be yourself as long as it doesn't negatively affect others.

In those cases, seperate those which it negatively affects and surround yourself with who it positively affects.


On a side note. I love to do things that screw with people's mind and assumptions. I enjoy the looks I get when I get in a 300k+ mile hooptie with faded and peeling paint, atleast I don't have to open door from back seat anymore, with all the squeeks and creeks of a old car while dressed up in slacks and nice Polo for work. When I am considered the genius at work in my group and when they ask what I am listening to and it's easy-e automobile. Walking into a nice restaurant in clothes that is dirty because when I am not working I am building things, fixing things, or helping others fix things. Walking into home depot in nice slacks a nice dress Polo shirt covered in sawdust from building a fish tank stand. When people see my handy work and then find out my job is a computer programmer. I actually get a trip out of making people do a double take....showing all sides of me...not just being one sided.

Edit: and then the next day they ask and I am listening to kenny g

apparently me being myself effects other negatively because when ever i am it never ends well. so "be yourself if yourself fits into our idea of how someone who looks like you should be"

 

[DreamBeliever]

Cool thread, even if it is old. I literally just made a blog post similar to this the other day.

 

[Qlip]

Being yourself requires knowing yourself.

So instead of giving someone the advice "Be yourself", I would say the words which every ancient Greek who went to see the oracle of Delphi would read:

"Know thyself."

Good stuff. In knowing myself, I learned that part of me is plastic. Only part.

 

[prplchknz]

Cool thread, even if it is old. I literally just made a blog post similar to this the other day.

maybe cross post it here? or link

 

[Poki]

apparently me being myself effects other negatively because when ever i am it never ends well. so "be yourself if yourself fits into our idea of how someone who looks like you should be"

Maybe the fact that it ended was a blessing and in that case all was well.

 

[prplchknz]

Maybe the fact that it ended was a blessing and in that case all was well.

but it's not one or two groups of people it's like 99% of the modern world.

 

[DreamBeliever]

Hope this link works.
http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/members/dreambeliever/3325-people-yourself-dont-mean.html

 

[Riva]

Be yourself is one of my least favourite quotes.

Accept your weaknesses perhaps and love it or try to change it depending on what you think is more suitable sounds like a better quote.

 

[Poki]

but it's not one or two groups of people it's like 99% of the modern world.

i just flat out refuse to interact with 99% of the modern world.

 

[prplchknz]

i just flat out refuse to interact with 99% of the modern world.

yeah but you can get anyone to like you. so no offense.

 

[gromit]

People don't want to hear my complaining.

I should edit this, because some people don't even mind the complaining, if you can do it in more of a funny way, and it's not the only thing you ever talk about.

 

[gromit]

It is weird though, because I think it is good advice for some people and bad advice for other people.

Some people's 'self' is actually super cool but they are embarassed about it for some reason or too shy or don't have confidence to let that shine. They should be themselves. But some people's 'self' is a real whiny asshole. Like... some people who use that Marilyn Monroe quote about handling someone at their worst vs deserving them at their best. Like maybe sorry, your best isn't worth handling you at your worst, that's how bad your worst is. But then that quote is also about the kind of thing that's actually really nice for a lot of other people. You stick by someone even when they're having a bad day or going through a rough time.

 

[prplchknz]

Hope this link works.
http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/members/dreambeliever/3325-people-yourself-dont-mean.html

check the privacy settings. i don't have permission to read it

 

[prplchknz]

It is weird though, because I think it is good advice for some people and bad advice for other people.

Like some people's 'self' is actually super cool but they are embarassed about it for some reason or too shy or don't have confidence to let that shine. But some people's 'self' is a real asshole. It's like some people who use that Marilyn Monroe quote about handling someone at their worst vs deserving them at their best. Like maybe sorry, your best isn't worth handling you at your worst, that's how bad your worst is. But then that quote is also about the kind of thing that's actually really nice for a lot of other people. You stick by someone even when they're having a bad day or going through a rough time.

i can't like this post there's no button.

i always viewed it as you can be yourself if you're not toooooooooooo weird. you can be a little weird that's fine.

 

[DreamBeliever]

check the privacy settings. i don't have permission to read it

Eh, I'll just copy & paste then. It's also in the 'Blogs' section on here.

Has anyone else encountered this in life? People telling you to be yourself, but when you really do, people get mad at you for it? It seems like it's the same as when people tell you to speak your mind. Maybe I'm just weird, & it's really just me. I feel like no one likes me when I'm really being myself. I guess it's because I'm not good at acting 'socially acceptable'. Shouldn't we embrace each other's differences, though? The world would be boring if we were all the same. Eh, but life is boring anyway. I feel like what people really mean by this statement, though, is be the person I want you to be, or fit into the mold that I want you to. I'm just so feed up with this.