I ask that question, but I'll also ask another question in relation to that question. Why do people tell lies when you want the truth of the matter, even if it is blunt, and even if it'll hurt yourself by that truth?
What I am wondering about is why fabricate something when I want you to tell the truth about something. I'd rather be hurt now than be hurt many times more in the future. Why do some people go to great lengths to fabricate a lie or hide something that could potentially improve the other person?
If someone came up to me with a sincere question, I would be willing to tell the truth. That is, knowing that that person wants truth without fabrication or lies to begin with.
Thread: What causes people to tell lies?
10-04-2011, 08:29 PM #1
What causes people to tell lies?
10-04-2011, 08:58 PM #2
Well. That's pretty complicated. Sometimes people ask for the truth, but don't actually want it. Some people want the truth, but can't handle it. Sometimes the act of telling the truth will change things in the way the answerer doesn't wish it to. Even if the asker wants to know the truth and can handle it, sometimes it is too intense for the answerer to tell the truth.▵
10-04-2011, 08:59 PM #3
I think 80% of the lies I tell are more half truths.. Not saying the entire story, to sway it one way or the other. 100% of the time that I do that, it is solely because I feel it isn't anyone's (or that particular person's at least) business.
As for why we're conditioned to lie even though people want the truth? Most of the time, people have an idea of the "truth" they're about to hear.. when they hear something drastically different, they aren't prepared for it, and thus react in a negative way. So as we continue to see that pattern, we soften it and mold it into what we THINK they want, which ends up with better reactions.
For example... Crappy parents dont want to hear that their kid is screwed up because their parenting was shit. Even if it was.Kantgirl: Just say "I'm feminine and I'll punch anyone who says otherwise!"
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10-04-2011, 09:05 PM #4Why do people tell lies when you want the truth of the matter, even if it is blunt, and even if it'll hurt yourself by that truth?
Why do some people go to great lengths to fabricate a lie or hide something that could potentially improve the other person?
10-04-2011, 09:10 PM #5
The main reason I lie is to protect my privacy. But lately, privacy has become less and less important to me.
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10-05-2011, 12:09 PM #6
10-05-2011, 01:40 PM #7
Would you tell your five year old daughter the truth, if she asked: "will we always be together Dad ?"
10-06-2011, 08:43 AM #8
People have to be told lies, because people CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!
10-06-2011, 07:45 PM #9
10-06-2011, 07:56 PM #10
Fear, mostly. Fear that other people will reject their advice, their critique, or react to the opinion harshly.
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