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    Default Is it better to ignore your failings?

    I recently read in a self help book that it is better to ignore your failings and just focus on your abilities and improving those.

    What do you think?

    Should we try to improve the areas we know are weak? Or should we just focus on our abilities and ignore our weak areas?

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    Yeah, unless they're causing some big trouble in your life, developing your natural talents is much more effective than trying to cover your bases in all your weaknesses. Mostly because our life is finite, thus the choice is partially binary.
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    [youtube="mf0YzT8QzH8"]A Dialogue on Forgiveness[/youtube]

    A better question to ask, is it better to ignore your self image? How important are failings to your self image?

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    I disagree. I believe you should face failings, understand them, forgive yourself for them and analyze them in light of your strengths to minimize their negative consequences. If realistic... spend some time strengthening weak areas to achieve at least a minimal competency (sometimes a hard earned “C” is good enough ).
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    Before it devours all your self-confidence, sure. Because once you are down, it is hard to stand up again. But usually you should probably not ignore them totally.

    But I believe that is a more complex question than you can usually answer in a single line.

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    I agree with jim. Own your failings inside/out. Unless we're talking about some profound discovery, nothing separates experiences from other experiences until you've attached emotional weight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jimrckhnd View Post
    I believe you should face failings, understand them, forgive yourself for them and analyze them in light of your strengths to minimize their negative consequences. If realistic... spend some time strengthening weak areas to achieve at least a minimal competency (sometimes a hard earned “C” is good enough ).
    I agree with this. There are many skills that are very useful, or even necessary, for getting on well in the world. For dealing with work, relationships, self-management....If a personal weakness is hindering you in some area, sometimes you do need to improve it. There isn't always a way around it.

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    no :/

    i agree with jim also. i would seek to be aware of them and to be kind to yourself and focus on your positives, but ignoring your negatives will just create problems.

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    I don't think we should ignore our failings as they can be a useful learning experience. If we don't know where we went wrong the first time, how can we avoid repeating the same mistakes?

    On the other hand it's psychologically unhealthy to dwell too much on our failures.
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